Happiness Is Free - Create Your Own [Part 2]

A few days back, a friend of mine, during our discussion, told me that "the best things of life are actually free" and I saw truism in it. Adorably, happiness is also included in the free things of life, but it is also required that you take the responsibility to create your own happiness. From our first episode, we established the fact that the choice is ours to create our own happiness. We also took a look at what will come in handy to assist us with effectively creating our happiness. Here, we shall also be taking some more tips on how one can create and sustain their own happiness.

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1. Make someone happy

It is always said that the easiest way to make something to work for you is by causing it to work for someone else. That is, what you make to happen for someone else (including making them to be happy) will be made to happen for you. Just like in farming, what a farmer plants in his farm during the planting season is what he is expected to harvest during the harvest season. So if you are the person that always seeks for the happiness of others, your life will not lack happiness. You will agree with me that each time someone is happy because of you or because of your acts of goodness towards them, there is also a level of happiness that is spread abroad in your heart.

Seeking for your own happiness is one thing but seeking for the happiness of someone else leads to a higher form of happiness. A pipe that is used to distribute water does not lack water. In the same way, if you are a channel of creating happiness, your life will naturally radiate happiness. The truth is that you are more likely to receive what you give. You can undertake this little workout: When you go out each day, try to look at people and smile at them, you will almost always get a complimentary smile back from them, and it will lighten your mood.

2. Make friends with happy people

The people you constantly company with will influence what becomes of your life. During my college years, there was this particular guy that normally comes around the lodge where I stayed and everytime he comes around, he would complain about anything and everything. He constantly carried a long face as if the burden of the whole world was resting on his shoulders, and he would always have what to complain about. After a while of staying with him, I suddenly found myself also complaining more about things.

At that point, it dawned on me that the guy was already influencing my life negatively with his unhappiness, so I had to stay clear from him. The moment I withdrew from him, my happiness returned back. The truth is that there are people that you will company with and you will be happy, but there are others that you will company with and you will tilt toward unhappiness. So for the sake of protecting your happiness, you need to keep company with the people that are also happy.

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3. Make a choice to be happy

The truth is that there are many things to make one unhappy in this world and there are also many things to make one happy, it is now left for you to choose the kind of life you want to have - life of happiness or unhappiness. The choice people make are so powerful that it can alter the course of their life. If you choose to be happy even in the midst of vexations, then nothing can stop your happiness. Even determination comes as a result of choices. Obviously, there is nothing that appears as "undoable" in the sight of the determined person. So if you are determined to be happy, you will see reasons to be happy.

No matter what someone does to you, it is still left for you to choose if you want to allow the offences to make you happy. You may be surprised to know that anyone that can succeed in making you unhappy can also succeed in controlling you. It is true that offences will come, of course you do not have a choice about that, but you have a choice to determine if you will become unhappy or if you will rise up above it. One thing to understand as I conclude is that you are absolutely responsible for your own happiness, so you have to live in that consciousness.

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