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RE: The Kind of Dad I Want to Be (Being afraid that you are not doing "good enough" can make you do worse in any arena, including parenting.)

in #freedom7 years ago

I think as parents we all worry that we might be inadequate in some way, or that we aren't doing enough/being enough for our kids. It kind of comes with the territory. But it seems like you are parenting with the objective always in mind of raising a free individual. And that is rare, indeed. With that as your guiding principle, I pretty much guarantee you'll do more good than harm.

I often find that the things I worry most about as a mom end up taking care of themselves. For instance, I was so worried about my daughter learning to read (she was a delayed reader) that it caused me major anxiety for several years. However, I stuck to my unschooling guns and backed off, trying to trust in her process. At ten, she taught herself to read, and now is perfectly fluent. So maybe I did all that worrying for nothing. Have you ever found that to be true?

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Definitely. In fact, I was just thinking about that. I also am reminded of that famous Mark Twain quote:

So good to hear about your daughter! Proof that kids develop just fine on their own time!