Dilemma in Decision Making, Here are the Tips
How do you make decisions? Well, in today's post, I will discuss the dilemma in making decisions. Well, one of the first ways, which I often do is, by looking back, in the sense, let's look at our experiences, when we are confused now, have we ever experienced the same situation, and have we ever made the same decision.
Learn from past experiences, learn from the experiences of people who have experienced, what is now in front of you, that's the first way. There are still two more ways, I will discuss them in the final session of the post. But surely, maybe you also ask, usually when confused, is it better to use logic, or use feelings?
If I agree more, when making a decision, use logic.
Have you ever heard that delaying a decision is also a decision? It means this, if we are confused, sad, don't make a decision at that time, later it can be a long matter. For example, if a husband and wife are arguing, they are sad, upset
"Okay, let's just divorce, let's separate"
And it doesn't mean that after that we take back our partner's words, it's not that easy, wait until you're calm, then make a decision. But there's one thing, that I remember from a friend, who said, not only when you're upset, when you're sad, you shouldn't make decisions. It turns out that when you're happy you shouldn't make decisions either, why?
For example, you're treated to a delicious meal by a friend, and it's expensive too.
After eating, he says,
"Bro, let's do business, I have a good business, if you join you can definitely be successful, I have a lot of networks",
Moreover, he praises you, he's happy, he's eaten, he's happy, the food is delicious, it's free too, he praises you again, he's happy. Is the possibility of you saying yes high, or low? High of course, you say yes. When looking for parking later, earlier BL 5116 Q, until being photographed, sometimes BL 5286 NE is parked, you start to think and then regret, "why did I say yes earlier.
Just like mothers when they are shopping at the mall, they are praised by SPGs,
"You are beautiful, you can wear anything"
then you say,
"Oh, is that so, miss, then I will take two, wrap them up".
Regret always happens on the day of parking, regret always happens when you are thinking. So delay, the power to delay, the power is called The Power Of, delaying is important, delaying until feelings are calm.
Because feelings of sadness are not allowed, feelings of joy, happiness, are also not allowed. You have to use logic, even though you are dating, this woman, for example, your girlfriend says something like this, "Bang, our feelings have been dating for 7 years, when we date, we always eat meatballs, I also need other nutrients". Like that for example, you have to use logic too.
Well, I don't agree with using feelings, and be careful women, you often receive love using feelings.
You know, many men take advantage of this (except me)😂
Many playboy men approach, women who are upset, they are easily influenced and vice versa, many playboy men diligently visit, women who are happy, because when you are happy, your heart is open, easy to accept. It's not easy to shoot a woman in the open, in the daytime, in an open space, the woman says "why you"? Think logically, the possibility of you being cheated is very low, because you are thinking.
Now, we deepen it graphically, I agree more with us making decisions, just use logic. You know the symbol of libra, the scales, there is logic, there is thought, there is feeling.
So it's always turbulent, using logic, or using feeling. We must understand that there are rules, for certain things it is mandatory to use thought. But there are indeed certain things using feeling. For example, we feel sorry for ourselves, because if we give alms using logic, it will take a long time, for example, while driving, there is someone who might be, I apologize, disabled, right? This is being logical,
"Give 50 thousand, if you don't give it in a hurry, logic plays, don't give 50 thousand, it's too big, 20 thousand is already big".
In giving we have to use feelings, but for things like making plans, for example financial planning, financial planning, when making it we have to use logic, "I save this much for the future". If we use feelings, "Set aside three million for shopping in a month, would that be fun? Oh dear, it's better to show off, buy something". Yes, so it's better to use logic.
Well, now there is a condition where logic plays, and feelings just watch. Yes, it should be like that, but sometimes you use feelings, for example like this, "*You want to break up with him, but you have sacrificed too many feelings for him, you have put too much trust in him, you are really sure. In the end you are afraid of being hurt, the feeling of being afraid to let go of the love that you have enjoyed so far.
That is your lack of courage, because there are feelings at play there. Well, here is an example to make it easier for you to understand. Like this, for example you want to break up with someone, your feelings say,
"I don't love him anymore, I don't care about him anymore, it's zero, if there used to be say....say..., there was sayang, now there's saytong, it's just logic playing,"
"Don't break up now, the ring you're wearing is from him, wait until you can buy it yourself, then break up, rather than him asking for the ring now, logic playing, not yet".
This is logic and feelings, like two camps fighting over the remote control, to change channels, we can imagine that logic is a Barcelona fan, while feelings are Real Madrid. So both of them are fighting over the remote control, to move to their respective channels.
Well, sometimes logic and feelings short-circuit, this is where confusion occurs. Confusion occurs when logic says what, feelings say what. I suggest that if you're confused like that, scientifically it is recommended, take a moment of me time, take a short break. Because delaying a decision is also a decision. If you're not very diligent in making a decision, tomorrow you'll be sleeping soundly, calm. Who among you agrees that, people who use their wisdom in making decisions, their future is brighter and more beautiful? Woww, you are amazing, I give you all a round of applause, amazing, you are right.
So, indeed if feelings, thoughts, and logic are fighting each other, first we must be able to calm our feelings first. Because when our feelings are confused, chaotic, full of emotions, sometimes logic doesn't work. So we don't think, and sometimes we can make decisions that we might regret. The second solution, if I said earlier, the first solution is to look back, to learn from experience. Well, the second solution that I usually do, we must be able to look forward. Well, looking forward in the sense, we must be able to know, approximately what will happen in time, minutes, months, and years. Looking forward what will happen after we make that decision, in minutes, in months, and in years, hopefully it will be useful.
Greetings always compact.
By @midiagam