RELATIONSHIP AND LOVE---THE FACT, BUT THE DIFFERENCE
RELATIONSHIP AND LOVE---THE FACTS, BUT THE DIFFERENCE
From experience gathered, I have found out that love does not guarantee the success of a relationship. Love alone cannot help you stick to one person. After all, cheating is not always a product of not loving your partner. In fact, Loving someone does not guarantee not falling in love with any other person.
Though the love in our heart is more than enough to share with many people, but love is not limited to the feeling in the heart many attribute it to. As a matter of fact, most times that feeling is more of lust than of love. Love is compassionate and creates a selfless feeling, unlike the selfish one that makes a person want another for themselves regardless of if it's best for the person or not. Love is a decision you take, what you feed the mind determines its output in actions.
But relationships works out mostly because of our head not our heart, It works out because of emotional maturity, empathetic intelligence and self discipline. You see, times will come when you will see people that are better than the one you are in a relationship with. In those times, Love will not help you, But self control, Emotional intelligence and commitment will. No matter how you feel for someone, The person you are committed to ranks first in your life.
Most married people do see better people than the ones they married, sometimes they catch feelings. But understanding that commitment is greater than feelings is a great arsenal to destroy that impulse. You can fall in love with anyone, but building a relationship takes absolutely more than what attracted you to them. It takes more than Love. We are too fond of loving when it's convenient, when it's sweet. We are too fond of loving when love is there but that can only last for just the first 3-6 months of the relationship. After then, You will realise that the feelings have dropped, It is now your responsibility to make it work, not love's responsibility, but YOURS!.
Building a relationship is hard work, it's like building a career, It's like pursuing a dream. It's always tough, it will sometimes be so bitter but you can always make it work through hard work. Both of you. And that's real love.
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