What do men really want? How to make a man want more than a One night stand

“Shake that booty baby! Shake that booty, flash your sexy smile, entice him with your charming smile, and he’ll feed from the palms of your hands all the days of his life. ”

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This is the belief of so many women, and over the years, a lot of ladies have grown to believe that good looks and a sexy body is all that it takes to keep a man.

The truth is that men look at women in different ways, and tend to place them into three distinct boxes. That’s the reason why a man would see one lady and crave to have a one night stand with her, but meets another and begins to go ring shopping.

People always say; “all men are driven by what they see;” no matter how stinking a woman’s attitude might be, as long as she’s smoking hot, men will do anything just to be with her. On the other hand, people also say; “every woman loves and worship money. Just flash some good cash, and she’ll come crawling into your bed at the snap of a finger.”

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In as much as pretty women always have men running after them, and rich guys change women like clothes, it is very erroneous to generalize and put everyone into the rich and sexy gets it all stereotype.
Beautiful ladies get loads of attention from men, and rich guys get lots of attention from women, but this type of attention does not last. The moment the man or woman gets what he/she wants from the other person, reality sets in, and at that very moment, beauty and money will no longer be enough to keep the person.

Why Does Initial Attraction Fade Away?

Let’s explain this with a simple analogy. A beautiful woman is like a person who graduated from college with First Class Honors. Upon graduation, the first class graduate gets so many job offers and interview invitations. Their beautiful result is reason enough for so many employers to offer them jobs, but after they have been employed, if their services aren’t as beautiful as their First Class result, they will not succeed in that organization. The employer may give them a little time to prove themselves, but if they fail to do so, they’ll most definitely be thrown out of the job.
This is the same reason why women who are drop-dead-gorgeous get dumped by men. It is not always because the guys are arseholes; sometimes, most times, it is the women who are the at fault.
Your good looks can attract a man, but if you have nothing else to offer apart from the fine face, milk shake and large booty, you are so going to get dumped!

Someone once asked me; Is it possible for a woman to look gorgeous and still not be able to attract a man?

Guess the answer I gave; I said YES! Apart from good looks, friendliness also attracts a man. You might be the most beautiful girl in a gathering, but the frown on your face and the coldness in your eyes and demeanor will chase the guys away from you. A guy may be so attracted to you, but will not approach you because he doesn’t want to get embarrassed. If you are not approachable, your beauty won’t do much for you.

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The things that make men want more than a one night stand

Guys have a unique way of categorizing women. Actually, guys always put ladies into three different boxes. When you’re hot and beautiful, you will definitely have most of the guys turning your head in your direction, but when you let any of them in, when the frenzy is over and the chips go down, he’ll then decide which of these three categories you fit into.

• The Sex Category: You already know; this is when he decides that, “this one is just good under the sheets. Nothing else.” It doesn’t take a lot for a woman to be put into this category. All she needs is to be sexy. Some men can even have sex with a woman they don’t find attractive.

• The Friendship Category: Did I hear you say ‘friendzone? You are totally correct. For this type of girl, the guy would want to have sex with her, introduce her to his friends as his friend, but he’s not ready for commitment. For a man to put a woman in this category, it means that he finds her attractive and fun to be with. Probably, she’s beautiful enough to be flaunted, but then, beauty doesn’t buy love.

• The Girlfriend Category: There are so many special artributes a guy sees that makes him want to date this lady. He’s willing to stay with her for a long time, introduce her to his family and friends, and plan a life with her. This woman might not be the most beautiful woman he has seen, but she has the following traits

• She’s focused and has a sense of direction

• She’s always willing to improve on herself

• She’s independent, and is not a leech

• She holds herself at high-esteem

• She encourages him to become a better person

• She knows her worth; she has high self-esteem, and doesn’t need anyone to tell her that she’s amazing

• She loves him for who he is, and believes in his hustle. She’s his number one fan

• She has what it takes to turn him on emotionally and sexually

• She’s not a drama queen

• She understands and encourages him

• She’s not sexually boring; she is very adventurous in bed.

These are some of the traits a man looks out for in a woman, but unfortunately, so many women have these traits, but they still don’t get the attention of men. This might be because she hasn’t worked on her physical appearance. Hey, don’t forget that you have to look attractive to get the initial attention of a man. So you have to work on your outward appearance also.

Actually, it doesn’t take much for one to look good and bring out her inner charm. All you need to do is eat healthy meals, workout regularly, take care of your skin, drink a lot of water, dress well, groom yourself properly, wear good-smelling perfumes and always wear a smile and cheerful face.

In conclusion, when you have worked out your outer charm, lighten up your inner beauty because that’s what it takes to get a worthwhile relationship.