How to find the courage to tell the truth

There are situations where telling the truth appears to be an incredibly difficult task.

Sometimes we fear to offend our interlocutor, other times we are ashamed or afraid, other times we still prefer to omit the truth or lie in order to avoid a clash or not to recognize that we have made mistakes.

And often we do not find the courage to tell the truth even though we are fully aware that it would be the right thing to do.

Finding the courage to tell the truth allows us to fully express ourselves and our personality, facing reality without fear and managing our relationships with others responsibly.

But how can we do this? How can we find the courage to tell the truth even when it seems much easier to hide behind silence or lie?

Here are some simple tips:

Look inside

Many times, in the past, I've happened to find myself in situations in which I kept silent even though I knew perfectly well, inside me, that talking and "telling things as they were" would have been the right thing to do.

But I did not do it, for fear or cowardice. However, inside me I knew exactly what I should have done. And I didn't, I pentomene punctually soon after, when it was too late.

Try then to listen to your "vocal", try to look inside and follow what your deepest ego suggests to you. Within us we often have answers to our doubts and uncertainties.

Think about the consequences

Not dealing with situations directly often means finding ourselves with far greater problems later on.

The unspoken things do not lead to misunderstandings, frictions and resentments that we could have avoided simply by confronting ourselves with our interlocutor in a sincere and honest way, clarifying our position and our thinking rather than telling ourselves behind silence or lies only for fear of facing the situation directly.

When you are in a situation of uncertainty or discomfort, then, and you're tempted to stay in your shell, try to think in advance about the consequences of your "non-behaviour".

A hard message

Sometimes we decide to omit the truth or cover it with a lie because we fear that communicating the reality of the facts can be a hard and difficult message to digest for our interlocutor.

We are afraid to offend our neighbour, to put him in a state of concern or to be bad or indelible in his eyes.

In these situations it is certainly appropriate to act with delicacy and attention, so as not to collide with the susceptibility of others, but only to tell the truth' is what can really help the other person.

If you believe, for example, that some of your colleague's arrogant attitudes are obstructing him in his relationship with his supervisor, instead of silencing you try to communicate to your colleague the impression you have from your perspective and how you think that he can improve his relationship with his boss.

The sincere feedback and constructive criticism of those around us are what really allows us to grow and improve as people in every field. Perhaps a message that may be hard but sincere helps us more than a thousand lies said only to please us.

You don't need excuses

We often have no courage to tell the truth simply because we want to cover up our mistakes.

Since we are afraid of admitting our mistakes and exposing ourselves to criticism or reproaches from others, we end up believing that the best solution is to avoid the easy shortcut of excuse and lie.

But growing as people means something else. Growing up means having the will to take responsibility for one's actions, sincerely recognizing one's mistakes and actively committing oneself to remedy them.

Each of us makes mistakes, no one excluded. Our wonderful opportunity lies in recognizing our mistakes without shame or fear.

Every mistake is an extraordinary opportunity for growth, it's up to us to know how to seize it.