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RE: How To Perfectly Respond To An Insult

in #psychology7 years ago

Yes, it's the right approach to it. I think there are many philosophies which encapsulate this way of living. I am reminded of the chinese Dao philosophy, or the proverb of "be water". If you attack back, yang meets yang, but if you let if flow right through you nothing happens.

Which would raise the point: is it perhaps more nothingness we should be doing? We always learn about the doing part, maybe it's time we learned the not-doing part.

On the other hand, anyone who has been in such a situation (virtually everybody), I think sees that it's not always so easy! Staying calm in such a situation reveals wisdom and life experience only very few have. There is this tantamount energy that is just so hard to let slip away--It is almost as if our body--our whole biological system--is programmed to respond.

But yes, I will try to keep my head cool the next time too ;)

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Thank you for writing such a reflective comment :) Be water makes so much sense! In every part of life!! Stay fluid and you'll stay calm, flexible, stable, open and strong! Like the river carving many parts.

"Which would raise the point: is it perhaps more nothingness we should be doing? We always learn about the doing part, maybe it's time we learned the not-doing part." As you say, we always learn the doing part. But perhaps just be, and not make to much ado and fuzz about anything I think you'll stay way more content in life and less stressful.

It's not easy. staying calm takes a lot of wisdom and being secure in one self... thats correct. but perhaps for those who's not self-secure at all one can learn to stay calm by faking that you are are calm, trying to trick yourself to master such situations. Have a wonderful day - nice to meet you @tobetada!!

What exactly do you mean by faking wisdom and self-security? That seems rather like building a house on sand--it's going to collapse eventually.

I think true self-confidence can only arise out of self-knowing. And that requires a deep insight into your Self. "Who are you?". If you can answer this question then wisdom and self-knowing come about naturally.

oh perhaps I didn't make my self clear enough @tobetada I didn't mean faking wisdom :) Just faking you are calm even if you aren't:) Perhaps eventually you'll be able to stay more and more calm just by practising.