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RE: Alimony: His Wallet, No Choice
See, this is the point: the hypocrisy of supporting her body, her choice, while denying the same equal treatment under the law - women in this case have all the choice, zero responsibility: men have zero choice, all the responsibility.
How do men have all the responsibility? How the hell do wmen have ZERO responsibility? You failed to demonstrate. I just disproved that with the article I posted.
I understand that you are likey too young of a man to really understand the realities of children, pregnancy, abortion, etc. And it's ok to be angry about it.
Women's choice, regardless of what her partner wishes: to abort or not to abort.
Men's choice, regardless of what he wants: To end up footing the bill.
Therefore: zero responsibility for the woman (it takes two to tango, save atypical situations such as rape), full choice, regardless of what her partner thinks and wants.
And all responsibility for the man (there is no getting out of this, a path that is available to the woman), with correspondingly zero choice.
You would be mistaken.
I am not.
And just to be clear, I am not against abortion per se.
I do think it should be a last resort and not contraception plan B as it often appears to be used nowdays -- insulating people from their own mistakes.
What I am deeply against is the profound unfairness that I hope to have demonstrated.
I think that a lot of women really consult their partners in whether to have an abortion, if they are in fact in an actual partnership.
My issue is not that you are claiming something unjust; maybe no one (man or woman) should have to pay child support, I don't know if that could work as a social policy or not. I think comparing men's involuntary paying of child support to women having choice to abort is a false equivalence.
"Men's choice, regardless of what he wants: To end up footing the bill."
It doesn't work out in reality that the male pays for the majority of the child's expenses!
Even if he has money. And if so, the father doesn't necessarily have more money than the mother. That is really subjective and individual, where the fact that women are the ones who get pregnant, give birth, lactate, are the primary care-giver of the infant, is universal (except maybe primary caregiver, a very small minority of men may end up as the primary caregiver to the child)
Plus, the man doesnt go through any of the health risks in abortion or taking the morning after pill, right?