I can relate to this. Sometimes when I feel the least presentable (sweaty from exercise, messy hair, tired or ill), I seem to get the most compliments. Perhaps it is fellow humans sensing subconsciously that our "mask" is off and we can connect on a very instinctual level. I encourage you, and myself, to share authentically and experiment with leaving out the softening humor or bright-siding to speak our truths. I'll follow your blog and look forward to connecting. Here's my intro, it's my first week on steemit :) https://steemit.com/introduceyourself/@mininthecity/introduceyourself