FOCUS ON YOURSELF NOT OTHERS

#FOCUS ON YOURSELF NOT OTHERS#

Figure out who you are don't apologize for who you are and then become even greater than you naturally are at what you are once you understand that every time you lose is an opportunity for you to not only learn that lesson but take it a plus-one step past the lesson you'll start to appreciate those lessons so many people float down the river of life without ever leaving putting their paddles in the water just hoping and praying and dreaming and wishing that they're going to end up somewhere good guys that's not how life works you know you have paddles in your boat you've just got to learn to use them humans do not transition to another level when they comfortable with the level that there are the whole games broken because everybody's too tied up into other people's opinions I only care about my opinion of myself and I care what my mom and wife and kids and the world think just not as much as I care about the way I think about myself I had a very important person my life come to me and say who's your hero and I said I'm not gonna think about that give me a couple of weeks I said I thought about it you know who it is I said it's me in ten years so I turned twenty five ten years later that same person comes bingo so are you a hero and I was like not even close so why is it because my heroes me at 35 so you see every day every week every month and every year of my life my heroes always ten years away I'm never gonna be a hero I'm not gonna attain that I know I'm not that's just fine with me because that keeps me with somebody to keep on chase you want to be somebody who succeeds you want to be somebody who builds something you want to be somebody who people write books about one day you're gonna have to be okay with being bad for a long time I'm telling you I've been thinking I'm gonna make a call that's what I'm asking you to do what feels you the reason why you so lazy is not because you don't have the ability you so lazy cuz your dreams so small I dare you to work on yourself for six months I did is shut out the world I do to shut out all the distractions I dare you to give up everything that is keeping you from your dream if you have a dream don't just sit there make something happen sometimes you just have to move do something make a car reach out to sell me togusa learn something new write down what you need to do in order to make a better life for yourself and be brave enough to do those things I dare you to take a stand today to say no more I will no longer accept this for my life I dare you to take action today I dare you to write your goals down and get someone to hold you accountable I dare you to hold yourself accountable I dare you I dare you to give up everything that is keeping you from your dream to say no to all the negative influences I dare you to pick up a book instead of a dream I dare you to work harder than you think you did yesterday I dare you to prove it will I dare you to prove yourself right whoever you are and declare that you're going to claim a bigger and right for yourself I dare you to make something happen this week to take massive action this week drop everything and do something I dare you to walk more than you talk I dare you to do good for the sake of doing good I dare you to tell no one about to be kind for no reason I dare you to spend time alone I dare you to say no with cry no to bad habits to negative people to wrongdoing I dare you to speak your truth I dare you to dream bigger bigger than they told you as possible for your life I dare you I dare you to walk your own path wherever that leads whatever they say I dare you to lock the world out for a week and work on you work on your dreams you're well and truly capable of living at a higher level if you do or you don't that's up to you ask yourself am i happy with my life exactly as it is now am I happy stay aware I'm help if you don't like to answer get to work work on yourself we're harder than you think you've worked in the past or just higher standards more self-respect more boundaries lesbians yell for Less better more positive less negative fully those who dare to go after the life most don't have will ever have the chance of living a life most will never have only those who dare to fight for a great life have a chance to live a great life what's it going to take for you to change what's it going to take for you to realize your potential what's it going to take for you to be proud proud of the person you are proud of your effort tired of the person you've become what is it going to take when you feel like your professor or your teacher has lost their mind when you feel like your energy is all gone and it's impossible to finish every assignment on time when you feel like you're mentally broken and your motivation to achieve is hard to find when you feel like the clouds in your life are so dark it would be impossible to ever see the sunshine again when you feel those are three of the most powerful words that could ever be put together when you feel because the feel means you're still with us because the feel means you're still breathing because the feel means you still have an opportunity to be achieve it because the feel means that you still have the power to stop the pain stop the bleeding stop the hurting stop the grieving I said when you feel because the feel means you're still with us because the feel means you're still breathing because the feel means you still have an opportunity to be achieving touch the feel means that you still have the power to stop the pain still have the power to stop the bleeding still have the power to stop to hurt you still have the power to stop the grieving so whenever you feel like your professor a teacher has lost their mind because they're overwhelming you with a workload that seemingly will take up all your time I need you to pause and recall the reason why you made the choice to invest your time and never lose sight of the fact that you were destined to shine never lose sight of the fact that you were made for this crime never lose sight of the fact that no hole it's too deep for you to climb up out of and above all else you're why will never ever allow you to withdraw your wife will never ever allow you to pull the plug your ride will never ever allow you to throw in the towel see it's your why that will push you to dig deeper and go to the extra mile see not only do you owe yourself but you told your mama you were finished you told your daddy you were finished you told your brother you were finished you told your sister you were finished so therefore it's up to you to never diminish the value of your work and a wise man once gave me a wise word and now I'm passing these wise words on te you are in total control of your situation so when you feel like you're facing a breaking point this is the point when you go to your purpose this is the point when you go to your academic adviser and not the time to despise her and not the time to despise him simply see I am in this until my walk across the stage with my diploma I am in this until I smell the sweet aroma of success here right now I'm feeling overwhelmed because I am on academic overload do you have any suggestions that will help me power through this semester because my only option is the figure this out and whatever it takes I can I will and I must do see I understand that drastic times call for drastic measures and the measure of a person's will is determined by what they are willing to do to ensure a triumph over tragedy the measure of a person's will is determined by what they are willing to do to ensure success over failure the measure of a person's will is determined about what they are willing to do to ensure winning over losing and see right now I'm choosing to fight for my academic future and that's why I came to your office I promise when they see that your passion is pushing you with a purpose they will give you every ounce of their being to assure you are successful because they know you're worthy I just need you to never forget that you're worthy success is your baby you just got a birth fit and then kick back and enjoy the fruits of your labor but in the meantime I need you to pull up your sleeves I need you to tighten up your boxing gloves because you're right in the middle of a heavyweight boxing match and life is trying to take your title and your survival and this academic arena is at stake it's moments like these where we separate the real from the fake but when it's like you shake off any and every punch that life throws and fight back with a series of vicious bear shots and body blows to overcome and achieve the victory but believe you me life will keep testing believe you me life will keep trying you believe you me life will keep pushing you believe you me life will keep trying to break you I don't think you heard me I said believe you me likely keep testing believe you me life will keep trying you believe you me life will keep pushing you believe you me life will keep trying to break you and always remember you are unbreakable they wanna see you fail but you are diamond and you succeed because you get back up after you fail and you will get back up again and again until your arms are raised with the wind so I need you to speak positivity into existence and ignore your inner voice of resistance because it's your resilience and persistence that will allow you to master your time management skills that will allow you to break all of these huge assignments down into small pieces that will allow you to group study with a winner's circle that will allow you to jump over any and I mean any academic hurdles always remember when you feel that means you are still breathing and thus you have an opportunity to keep achieving this is a great day to win defining ourselves by what we are not is the first step that leads us to really knowing who we are you know that group of friends that you hang out with that really might not bring out the best in you you know they they gossip too much or they kind of shady they really aren't gonna be there for you in a pinch or that computer screen right that computer screen that keeps giving us an excuse not to get out of the house and engage with the world and get some real human interaction how about that food that we keep eating stuff that tastes so good going down it makes us feel like crap the next week we feel lethargic but we keep putting on weight well those people those places those things stop giving them your time and energy just don't go there I mean put them down and when you do this when you do put them down when you quit feeling there and you quit givin them your time you inadvertently find yourself spending more time and in more places that are healthy for you that bring you more joy why because you just eliminated the who's the where the what's in the wind that were keeping you from your identity 99% of people are not willing to do what it takes to make their dreams come true the center of bringing any dream into fruition is self you know something as simple as food and eating it's not about your body as much as it is about your mind it's getting command of your mind to be able to choose actions that are in your own best interest and I think the word discipline has kind of gotten a bad name we think about it in terms of punishment I'm not talking about discipline in that way I'm talking about discipline in the sense that you you forego immediate pleasure for the exchange of long-term self-respect you cannot win the war against the world if you can't win the war against your own mind because motive matters right and what drives us I always tell people that there's a success formula I subscribe to it i call it h cubed that goes from your head to your heart to your hands affirm things in your head but if you're not acting with your hands there's there something that's missing right there's an incongruence there and i but i tell people is like you know check in with the second age which is your heart which is the symbol of like emotion the energy of motion and so I feel like that's the fuel that fuels the car that gets you to take action for something and I do believe what got me through it is figuring out what my why was and I say if happiness is what you're after then you're gonna be let down frequently and you're gonna be unhappy much of your time joy though Joy's a different thing it's something else Joe is not a choice it's not a response to some result joy is the feeling that we have from doing what we are fashioned to do no matter the outcome I started enjoying my work and literally being more happy when I stopped trying to make the daily labor a means to a certain in I need this film to be a box-office success I need my performers to be acknowledged I need the respect of my peers and all those are reasonable aspirations but the truth is as soon as the work became the reward in itself for me I got more box office more accolades and respect than I ever had before for me it's like no brain left behind right because I I live with that identity for so long and I my my message to people whether it's on stage or in the podcast or anything is that you know we are more than what we're demonstrating that we've been sold this lie that people are taught through school like when I do these demos and I understand stage memorize hundred names and words and numbers forwards and backwards and it appears effortlessly I always tell people I don't do to impress you I do to express to you what's really possible because the truth is everyone can do is to and so much more we were taught a lie that somehow our intelligence our potential are learning or memory somehow is fixed or creativity is fixed or thinking is fixed like our shoe size and what we've discovered more vehement about brain science in past two decades we discover more than the previous two thousand years and what we know is that we're grossly underestimated their own capacity so you'll be able to grow to be able to contribute to improve our intelligence and our influence and our impact and I'm really I want to kind of pull the veil behind and just say hey this is about transcending you know this is about ending the trance ending the trance enter that we're not good enough you know that we're not smart enough that we're not this genius and in telling the truth and the truth is we're faster and we're smarter than we think and not just to be able to memorize things but be able to really solve significant challenges and maybe that these challenges that were going through or the lessons that we need to to learn the most now all of us go through struggles right in her health or relationship whatever it is but their struggles to come come strengths and people don't talk about this as much and you know I probably have a post-traumatic you know stress from it going through a brain injury after brain injury there's also post-traumatic growth which which you know like as widely talked about but there's some people that go through immense amount of trauma and difficulty and challenge but they come out of it actually more empowered they say to themselves that because of going through this I found a new strength I found my superpowers I found a new meaning in my life I thought a new level of commitment I found a strength a mission if you will and a lot of them attest that they wouldn't trade that experience no matter how painful it was at the time for for anything I realized what was stopping me was my own fear it wasn't it wasn't anything with my educational aspect it was me thinking I couldn't do well in mathematics and when I learned to remove that fear and think I'm gonna do this no matter what's gonna happen I may fail it you may not fail it I'm gonna do well at this and I'm gonna just just see where it goes I'm gonna put my all into it and find out I'm motivated by fear I hate being scared to do something and I think what developed in my in my early days was the the attitude that I started attacking things that I was scared of I want to talk about failure I want to talk about why things go wrong why you fail to study better and you're wasting your time because you can learn as much if not more from your failures your nan starts your hesitations as you can from your successes we think that things happen overnight but they don't they happen every day in each passing moment you win or you lose you waste or you create winning or passing an exam or degree it's not a one-time thing it's an everyday thing and every moment thing you don't win once in a while you know do things right once in a while you do them right all of the time winning as a result or success excellence they're all habits your goal is not too big okay you're just not yet the person you need to be to execute against that and that is absolutely fine so you don't just lose once in a while you don't make an error once in a while you don't fail an exam one time you want the secret it's called work do not get confused here you have to work to match the ambition coming out of your mouth there's only one thing that you need to really find and that's direction you need direction your own direction someone else's direction not your parents direction society's direction or social media's direction your own direction but what does that actually mean it's a big word well it means knowing where you're numbing yourself or where you were wakening yourself where you numb yourself off with laziness sleeping in more than you should scrolling through your feed more than you should distracting yourself more than you should hesitating procrastinating waiting waiting again and again until you've numbed yourself from reality but when you are awakening yourself you know what that feels like because you're here listening to this motivational video you're focused you're seeking direction you're setting a clear goal for every single day you're taking trips to the library or the coffee shop the study session after study session you say no to the easy things and yes to the right things music sets the tone for our moments and we know it because even with these videos that you like to listen to the best ones have the best music and it's classical music 18th century music that has been shown scientifically proven to engage the parts of your brain that are responsible for two really important things your focus and your memory so if you ask if you want to know how to stop wasting time and study more effectively turn the music on and turn the distractions off this gym is for your minds steady study so choose the tools the tone that's going to help you the most and to round off with just remember this only as high as you reach can you grow only as far as you seek and you go only as deep as you can look can you see and only as much as you can dream can you be so reach high reach far go deep and keep dreaming.