Sex

in #blog6 years ago (edited)

The triggers are the guides
The triggers are the guides...

Okay I have to say something

I’m getting triggered lots lately everywhere I turn. About many things actually, but one of them is the vilification of sex and expressing sensuality.

For me:
nudity is not bad or wrong + sex is not bad or wrong = nudity with the intention of being sexual is not wrong

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I’m not saying every time I take off my tank top and practice yoga in booty shorts I’m trying to turn you on. But what if I was? (Hypothetical) I don’t see that as pathological unless my need of sexual attention was impeding others, my relationships or my quality of life.

Sexuality is a form of expression for me. It’s is a part of me that I will no longer hide. Not holding back the full expression of me is fucking therapy after a life of nipping and tucking parts deemed shameful.

So...there.

Maybe I’m not trying to be sexy ALL the time, but sex and embracing my inherent sensual nature is very special to me. Sex is the mixing bowl in which the alchemy of change most likely happens for me. I’ve worked thru more shit skin to skin and face to face through my intimate sexual relationships than in any old therapist room ... intimate sexual connection is emotionally charged space. It is a microcosm for the all.

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In yoga terms sexual intimacy is like my “on the mat” practice for me. My hope is things I discovered about myself there I take off the mat/out of the bedroom and into the world.

If I’m going to use the word “sacred” for anything, it’s this. Sex is a sacred practice for me. 🙌🏽🙏🏽

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Whatever involves LOVE is sacred. How else can it be? When it's just sex, in my opinion, it's just physical contact and that as a man you can have also with a prostitute, but LOVE is the energy that makes everything sacred and natural, because sacredness is as natural as it can be. It is a misconception that only "some" are destined to experience sacredness and the rest of us, the ordinary who browse on social media or smoke are far from its scent.
One smart guy that I saw talking about sexual continence, or the dry orgasm at men, is Mantak Chia that is a Taoist Master having classes on CHI energy and the control of sexual energy and sexuality in general. If I sparked any interest in this area give him a search. What he is talking about is really a thing that most men and women nowadays haven't even heard off. Sexual energy is one of the most powerful ones in the human condition and it is not "dirty" at all or worthy of stacking it in the closet or behind curtains.

I’m so glad for your thoughts. So please help me understand something...

As you and I have discussed before we see everything as One. There is no separation between anything including beings...that you and I appear separate is an illusion.

I guess what I’m asking is - if everything is One doesn’t that make everything sacred and natural? There can’t be natural vs unnatural of sacred vs secular if it’s all one. Aren’t such labels just our minds’ attempts to categorize what we perceive as reality?

Of course they are. But our talks are on the mind level where there's still sacred and secular, wright and wrong, good and bad, day and night, objectiveness and subjectivity. Until we attain Self realization/Moksha/Nirvana or whatever names has this ultimate state have these are only discussions of our minds and concepts. Ultimately, yeah, everything is One and even a piece of garbage or a thief are sacred.
I for now am still in duality with all of its ups and downs, but I see your point very clear :)

Ah my wise friend. I knew you would understand the dualism at play.

I’ve heard of the dry orgasm but not the Chi master you reference. I admit I’ve long been skeptical of practices minimizing/holding in semenal fluid, because they just sound like some ancient cover story, again, to scare people away from masturbation and sex or make it wrong and lesser than. I don’t know enough about it to judge though, and I’m sure the chi master is wiser than I. 🙏🏽

It's actually a practice of TANTRA YOGA that treats sex as a sacred practice and the retention of the seminal fluid as being essential in such practices.

Yes. Tantra. 🙏🏽 I’m basically a tantrika. Not because I learned and studied the teachings but because this is my life and it’s what I know to be true from experience. Just happen to have a label for that. Tantra. Thanks for reminding me

Truth is, your raw truths and dare minded transparency is really sweet. Sexuality is one aspect people shy away from while trying to play cool so people can approve of them in the society.

Yet they live lives devoid of happiness n real joy. Truly speaking, The exploration of our sexual awareness is the microcosm on which fulfilment of self is predicated.

Most people are of the opinion that most yoga ladies are usually unintentionally sexy even with no intent to be. There was a time I used to feel that yoga was a form of pornography, all that is changed now.

Thanks @steemed-open

Awe, thanks my friend.

I love when I get a panties only practice in. It feels AMAZING. Aside from that, I love these pictures!!

Thanks my friend 😽

Rock on! Love you for expressing yourself so well. Don't let the world change you.
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Don’t you worry. I’ve seen through letting the world change me. No risk of that going forward. Thank you my friend.

Yoga isn't about sex.. wtfm808

There is nothing wrong with expressing yourself. Some people can’t handle it because they are not happy with themselves. Glad you have found your harmony.

Thanks! And I’m grateful for your resteem 🙏🏽

Totally agree I get tired of degrading condemnation of sexuality and femininity as if it is dirty. It is sacred.

Thank you brother ✊🏽🙏🏽