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It seems to me that in this example, the pastor was actually the adulterer as he should not have remarried (or dated) until he had proof that his ex-wife had cheated.

That is correct.

There would be a valid position that she had forsaken God and abandoned her husband. These would be considered the acts of an unbeliever, permitting divorce.

She wasn't an unbeliever as far as I can tell. She was saved and once you are saved you cannot lose your salvation. I hope I haven't opened up a salvation can of worms with that one?

This link will take you an explanation of Matt 19, 1 Cor 7 and 1 Cor 5 - these verses are all there and the pastor gives what I think is a very sound explanation.

I'd encourage anyone that is interested to take a look at it.

There would be a valid position that she had forsaken God and abandoned her husband. These would be considered the acts of an unbeliever, permitting divorce. I would disagree with the OP's assertion that such cannot remarry. As Paul states, they are not bound..