6 Types of Bad Friends & How to Overcome them
- The Ngaret
Maybe you often wait for friends in the restaurant or cinema for hours. This kind of ngaret friend is annoying, but you can change it. You must dare to say that your time is precious.
The fix: Tell your friends with a simple phrase, unimpressed with the corners, like "I think I want to leave you if you're late". If your friends ignore it, you can change other tactics. You can make appointments where you can explore when your friends have not arrived, such as the bookstore near the restaurant where you made an appointment. Alternatively, you invite your other friends, so as not to be boring while waiting for him.
- Friends Who Do not Want to Lose
The characteristic of a friend who does not want to lose is, he always wants more from you. For example, when you get a promotion at the office, he immediately highlight other advantages, such as telling his apartment more luxurious, his handsome boyfriend and his education is better
"Being competitive to a friend is usually a sign of insecurity, it will only feel better if he has something much better," Amy Alkon, author of 'I See Rude People'.
The fix: First, see if your friend's competition is a compliment or ridicule, says Cindy Morrison, author of Girlfriends 2.0. Maybe he just tried to get better, because he wanted to be
like you. If so, it is the best form of praise you can get from a friend. By chatting with him about his purpose in life, his wants and needs, maybe he could feel better and know what his dreams were.
- The Forgetful
Maybe he never forgot your birthday, missed the appointment in the cinema to forget to put the stuff you lend, but you really like the item. If you have friends like this is a challenge, because you have to often remind him for various things.
The fix: A forgetful friend does not mean you do not love you because you often forget personal things from you. He also forgot the various things in his life, such as forgot to pay electric bills or forget with the promise of his personal physician. Forgetful or not, he is still a good friend, who can make you laugh or give you a gift three weeks after he finally remembers your birthday. You can suggest having a personal agenda to record important dates and promises. You also have to remind him often and give understanding to him, when you promise to meet, you will cancel other appointments. That way he will appreciate you more and try to remember.
- Friends who Likes to Look for Attention
Just like the competitive type, the attention-loving friend always focuses on the good and bad things that happen to him, without thinking of his friend. He often interrupts or acts excessively to be the center of attention.
The fix: Instead of getting mad in silence because he always interrupts the conversation, it's better to give him time to talk and you can interrupt his conversation while saying, 'Ok, you've talked a lot, now it's my turn to finish the story. According to Cindy Morrison, author of 'the upcoming book Girlfriends 2.0', Everyone will enter a period where she wants to always be the center of attention, like when a newlywed or new child. If your friend is the type who wants to be the center of attention in the chronic phase, you can frame the conversation about you into a topic that requires advice from him.
- The Negative Thinker
This type always thinks negatively in many ways, such as the fear of being robbed, thinking it will be difficult to get a job or a lot of other things. Often mixing with people who like negative thinking, can bring you the same mind too.
The fix: If he is your best friend, and you are worried that his nature will make him sad, try to show that he can be happier by saying 'I'm so thankful for all the good things we have' and mention all the reasons for us to be happy. You can also help her feel better with her situation. For example, if he complains he can not get a better job than he has, help him look for other options, such as telling him to attend a seminar and justify his CV.
- The Stingy
Are you always paying for food or drink because your friend forgot to take money at the ATM? or your friend tells you to buy tickets to the movies, but he never returns your money. Making friends with people who are difficult to spend money is troublesome. "Money issues can kill friendships," Morrison said.
The fix: Before going with him explain you and he will go where, you can immediately tell the price range of your destination and he. Suppose you are going to a restaurant, tell him the price of food there ranging from Rp 50 thousand to Rp 100 thousand. You can also ask the waiter to give you a separate bil. If that does not work, try telling him the truth. There is a possibility that he feels financially deficient, but is embarrassed to say it. If so, try to be a good friend and suggest a cheaper place to get together than going to an expensive restaurant.