罗翔：不要对人性抱以过高的期待，永远要警惕人性深处的幽暗，法治的前提就是对人性败坏的假设

罗翔曾说：不要对人性抱以过高的期待，永远要警惕人性深处的幽暗，法治的前提就是对人性败坏的假设。

这句话把人性与法治联系在一起，揭示了人性的本质，人性深处是幽暗的，而法治就是人性的底线。

那么，我们又该如何理解罗翔老师说的人性呢？在生活和工作中，我们又该怎样看待人性，才能保持良好的相处关系？

01 为什么不能对人抱过高期待

有句老话：越是高估越会失望，越是期待越会落空。

细品之下，你会发现，实际上就是人性复杂，你之所以失望，是因为你对人性太过于理想化。

人总喜欢把自己的美好想法附加到别人身上，希望别人能够按照自己想象的轨迹发展。

一旦别人脱离了你的轨迹，你就会觉得失望。

其实，人类有无私与善良，也存在着自私跟贪婪，它们是共存的。

你不可能凭借一面之缘就能判断出一个人的善恶，更不能一味的给人贴上善良或者邪恶的标签。

从人性的角度去看家庭、友情、爱情是看不透的。你不能说，我们的爱情天长地久，永远不会吵架，会一直相亲相爱下去；你也不会确定，友情就能万岁永恒。

因为人无完人，金无足赤，这期间有很多的变数，这就是人性。同时，人性也是充满无限矛盾和困惑的。

人都觉得别人家的孩子是好的，别人家的老婆是温柔贤惠的，而自己的永远一言不合就开怼、吵架。

甚至怀疑当初怎么就瞎了眼，找了这么一个合不来的人携手一生。

其实，这些矛盾，都是源于你对人性期望太高。

真正智慧的人就要去了解人性，看透人性的本质，不要对人抱过高期待。

等掌握了人性，再去把握处理人与人之间的情感，这样才能让关系长久。

02 人性的真实是怎样的

古话说：人善被人欺。

这其实就是真实的人性。

你越努力、果断、不服就干，就越有人欣赏你；你越是善良、老实、优柔寡断，就越有人欺负你。

在职场中，人性展示是最彻底的。

很多善良的人干不过狡猾的人，有人不做实事，无时无刻给老板汇报各种小道消息，却能委以重任；而那些任劳任怨的老实人，老板反而会忽略，说不定哪天，还会被人倒打一耙，悲催走人。

这就是职场中的阴暗面，也是人性最真实的一面。

在家庭关系中，也能显现出这一人性的真理。

当你没有实力的时候，家庭地位自然也不会高，对方总会有一句没一句的暗讽你；当你把自己变得有价值时，个个都来阿谀奉承，你瞬间觉得自己处于高光时刻，一切都变美好。

为什么？

因为人都是向往权威，仰慕成功的。

这也是为什么成功的人，有很多的追随者；而那些落魄的人，身边都是那些看不起他的人。

所谓落井下石，人捧人高，就是这样的道理。

一个人要想改变这样的窘境，就是不断地提升自己的价值，让自己变得优秀、独立。

03 保持平常心，才能收获

在这个人性复杂的社会，我们要想改变人与人的境遇，就得先调整好心态。

首先，我们要有一颗平常心，不要对人有太多的幻想。

有的人过得痛苦，就是因为想得太多。

我们这一生，根本无法真正了解一个人，很多真实的人性，我们是看不透的。

所以不要对人有过多美好的幻想。

有的人被外在形象蒙蔽，偶尔一瞬间的接触，你就视对方为知己。

掏心掏肺，却发现对方根本不值得。

因为人习惯性的给对方贴标签，而这个标签往往会出现错觉。

回归本体，还是要靠长时间的接触才会了解对方。

其实人与人相处，无需过于讨好，也不必费心经营。

只要保持平常心，双方觉得舒服就行。

再者，就是不要羡慕别人，别人家的孩子、别人家的妻子未必都是好的。

你只看见人家优秀的一面，不堪的那一面只是你没看见而已。

也许你也有别人羡慕的地方，只是自己不知道而已。

有的时候，放平心态看世界，看身边的人，还是会觉得幸福跟美好会多一点。

综上所述，人性有善有恶，在人与人相处的过程中，我们一定要洞察，不要对人期望太高，适当的保持距离感，分寸感，反而让双方相处舒适。

人性复杂善变，我们既要看见人性的光明面，也要看见人性的幽暗面。

用平常心去看待每一件事，才能更好地处理人与人之间的友情和情感。

Luo Xiang once remarked: "Do not harbor excessively high expectations for human nature; always be wary of the darkness within human nature. The premise of the rule of law is to assume the corruption of human nature."

This statement intertwines human nature with the rule of law, revealing the essence of human nature. The depths of human nature are obscure, and the rule of law represents the baseline of human nature.

So, how should we interpret what Mr. Luo Xiang said about human nature? In our daily lives and work, how should we perceive human nature to maintain positive interpersonal relationships?

01 Why You Shouldn't Have Excessive Expectations for People

There's an old saying: the higher the estimation, the greater the disappointment; the more expectations, the more they fall short.

Upon careful consideration, you'll find that, in reality, human nature is complex. The reason for your disappointment is that you idealize human nature too much.

People tend to project their own beautiful thoughts onto others, hoping that others will develop along the imagined trajectory. Once others deviate from your path, you'll feel disappointed.

In fact, humans possess selflessness and kindness, but also selfishness and greed – they coexist. It's impossible to judge a person's good or evil based on a brief encounter, let alone stick a label of goodness or wickedness on someone.

From the perspective of human nature, it's impossible to see through family, friendship, and love. You can't say our love will last forever, that we'll never argue, and will always be loving towards each other. Nor can you be certain that friendship will last eternally.

Because nobody is perfect, and there are many variables in between. This is human nature. At the same time, human nature is full of infinite contradictions and perplexities.

People always think other people's children are good, and other people's wives are gentle and virtuous, while their own ones always argue and fight at the drop of a hat. They even doubt how they could have been so blind to end up with such an incompatible partner for life.

In reality, these conflicts stem from having excessively high expectations for human nature.

Truly wise individuals seek to understand human nature, see through its essence, and avoid having overly high expectations for people. Once you grasp human nature, you can then navigate and handle the emotions between individuals, making relationships last.

02 What Is the True Nature of Human Beings

As the ancient saying goes: "A good person is taken advantage of by others."

This is actually the true nature of humanity.

The harder, more decisive, and less submissive you are, the more people appreciate you. Conversely, the kinder, more honest, and indecisive you are, the more likely you are to be bullied.

In the workplace, the display of human nature is most thorough.

Many kind-hearted individuals can't compete with cunning ones. Some people avoid doing real work but constantly report various gossip to the boss, and yet, they are entrusted with important tasks. On the other hand, those diligent and honest individuals may be ignored by the boss and, one day, might even be scapegoated and end up leaving.

This is the dark side of the workplace and the most genuine aspect of human nature.

In family relationships, the truth of human nature is also evident.

When you lack strength, your status in the family naturally won't be high, and the other party will always have some sarcastic remarks. When you make yourself valuable, everyone rushes to flatter you, and suddenly, you feel like you're in the spotlight, and everything becomes beautiful.

Why?

Because people yearn for authority and admire success.

This is also why successful people have many followers, while those in a bad situation are surrounded by those who look down on them.

The so-called "kick a man when he's down" and "people support the powerful" are just such truths.

If a person wants to change this predicament, they must continuously enhance their own value and become outstanding and independent.

03 Maintain an Ordinary Mindset to Reap Rewards

In this complex society, if we want to change the circumstances between people, we must first adjust our mindset.

Firstly, we need to have an ordinary mindset and not have too many illusions about people.

Some people live in misery because they think too much.

In our lifetime, we simply cannot truly understand a person. Many aspects of human nature remain hidden from us.

So, don't have too many idealistic fantasies about people.

Some individuals are deceived by external appearances, and after occasional brief encounters, they consider the other person a confidant.

Pouring your heart out, you may discover that the other person is not worthy.

This is because people tend to label each other, and these labels often create illusions.

Returning to the essence, understanding each other requires prolonged contact.

In fact, in interpersonal relationships, there is no need to be overly pleasing or make excessive efforts.

Just maintain an ordinary mindset, and if both parties feel comfortable, that's sufficient.

Furthermore, don't envy others. Other people's children or spouses may not necessarily be good.

You only see the excellent side of others, while their undesirable aspects are simply hidden from view.

Perhaps you also have qualities that others envy, but you are unaware of them.

Sometimes, looking at the world and the people around you with an ordinary mindset can make you feel a bit more happiness and beauty.

In conclusion, human nature has both goodness and wickedness. In the process of interacting with others, we must be insightful, avoid setting overly high expectations for people, and maintain an appropriate sense of distance. This, in turn, makes the interaction more comfortable for both parties.

Human nature is complex and changeable. We should not only see the bright side of human nature but also recognize its darker aspects.

Approaching everything with an ordinary mindset allows us to better handle friendships and emotions between individuals.