RE: A Song That Shaped You (Bananafish Flash Contest Entry)
First off dear @calluna,
I have to say that I was biased coming into this. When I saw the picture, my first thought was, "Am going to survive the song?" I've never been a huge punk fan. I've liked things here and there throughout the years. In fact, as I am writing this, the first time I remember hearing punk was when a babysitter of mine introduced me to a band named Green Jello and their song, "The Three Little Pigs, at the ripe age of 11-12 ish. I couldn't get enough! lol.
Well, suffice to say, "Soft Smoke" has been on repeat since hearing it. Really enjoyable and catchy toon.
PG - since the age of 2!?! What a fucked up little girl. Makes me wonder about the parents.
I was once in a similar situation but much later in life, like when I was 24-26. This psychopathic con artist got me to start cutting people out of my life if they didn't agree to give me money so that I could give him the money (basic scenario). A beautiful person entered my life. "Skinny Love" was a song of ours. "I'll be holding all the tickets and you'll be holding all the fines," was one verse that always stuck in my head. I asked the powers at be for at least a year with her and not let me get in the way of it. You see, one year is what I would get when I was younger, one year to make new friends, one year to get past the bullies, one year until I'd be a new kid at another school, one year in another house before moving on to the next. We got our year together and I wish I was better to have at least have kept her in my life - trauma stuff got in the way. (There was an awesome acoustic version of a WB Yeats poem that also reminds me of her - I searched and couldn't find it.)
I used to sing, at least that is what I called it, various song a lot from early childhood up until about 26ish. I always had a pair of earplugs in and sang. In the car I drove for a short time, I had the music blasting and my voice behind it. - Around the 7th grade, I learned it was not proper to sing out loud the whole tape of Gun's N' Roses "Use Your Illusions 2" because "what we got there was a failure to communicate" between my dad, step-mom, and me about how MUCH! that album meant to me in my life at that time. "Some men you just can't reach," so, after they took away my favorite album in the world, I pulled out the mix-tape that had been made by the person who gave me the album and never sung out loud in front of them again. HAHA
Around the age of 26, even before then, I began to notice how depressing and melancholy the music coming out of the American airwaves was. It took some time to start forcing myself to listen to different music. Not having a guide around, it was tough. In time, I came across "This Earth is not a Cold Dead Place" by Explosions in the Sky. Many years later, ambient, post-rock type of stuff has been some of my favorites to listen too.
I am more sensitive to words in songs too. Much of what I grew up listening to and much of what is played on the radio puts images into one's mind that don't lead us down a path of intelligence and self-realization. No - sex, drug, rock n' roll and mumble rap - that is what we get no-a-days.
I really have enjoy writing all of this from what you have provided here. It is something that I needed to read as I'm that guy standing with his back to the wall most of the time, to afraid to mingle, to afraid to be "normal", oh ... wait, that's a good thing - shit, I'm screwing up my negative attitude already. Bwahaha!!!
Doing the QITR together was one of the most awesome experiences I've ever had and I'm very thankful to have gotten to work with fine writters such yourself. There is a little space here for us - outsiders.
Awesome work.
Now, it is like an hour past my bedtime but I couldn't sleep before getting this all out. Don't get used to it. Inspiration like this hits only so every other blue moon. 8-)
Forgive my conciseness, but it's 1.36 at night and I'm writing in a language that's not mine.
It is we (I arrogate to myself the right to speak also on behalf of @ f3nix) that we must thank you @tristancarax and @calluna for continually enriching our spirit with things like this.
Personally I love when a person opens up and you can see glimpses of true humanity, it makes me feel connected.
In your exchange of confessions, you seem to me to be very beautiful and very complex people, who are honored to know even if indirectly.
The Pink Spiders aren't really proper punk, more pop punk, but punk is impossible not to love really, I mean clearly all it takes is the right introduction ;) awww i am glad you enjoyed it
I met PG in high school, the friend that I refused to disown, and that she went to and got to disown me, had been my best friend since we were 2. PG's brother was normal as, her parents were lovely too, I do think she was a psycho, she picked out a boy in the first few weeks of high school as her husband to be, and a lot of it was geared around him. He was from my village, so she had to become best friends with someone from the village to gain access to his mother. It was like a 14 year campaign of hard core heartless manipulation, but she did marry his last year. It was a horrible thing to go through and it did hurt a lot at the time, but I am glad it went that way, cos if i had played her game I would still be trapped in it, and I never would have met the people who mean the most to me now.
It should be a warning sign, one more people should recognize, that if a person tells you to cut others from your life, it's a serious flag that just goes unnoticed so often. That's one hell of a line though, that sharing and connection, it's amazing the emotions and memory that can get woven into a song and the depth that can be expressed in so few words when you start turning them over. I am glad you got your year, a year sounds so long when you ask for it, and so short when it's rushing by, and then looking back, a pool both endless, and over in a blink. Are you still in touch with her?
There is something so emotionally expressive is just singing, or shouting with no real tune in my case, the lyrics to songs, i know Reba McEntire but not that song, i will have to give it a go. But damn Tris, Voodoo, i know all too well, pretty much still know all the words! As if, i wonder if that would have been the same summer for us..? Probably! In fact, that Voodoo song always reminds me of going on the first date I ever went on with @johngreenfield, which was at his house drinking wine I hated and watching Dead Set cos i was done with meals and bars and all that shit. This was all of like, ten and a half years ago lol, but I can remember exactly what part of the town i walked through while it was playing cos the pressure was so high. I had put off going on dates with him for a few weeks, and instead went dates with guys who I kind of knew it wasn't going to work out with but seemed like fun for a bit, you know the type cage fighters, musicians who were sickeningly romantic, that bullshit, but i am a feral kind of girl, and I had met John doing an amazing impression of Matt Friction drenched in blood and sweat in a bar and could tell on a pheromone level I would fall hard. Voodoo made me feel in control, I'm not the one who's so far away, the idea of being under the influence of something, or playing with poison, but remaining in control, plus it was fun music to dance to haha so even though my friends were fairly certain John was going to be a murderer, off I went, listening to this again just took me right back to that memory of walking along the road, under the bridge, and pausing the song to knock on his door. He hasn't killed me yet lol.
It is amazing how much the background of what you listen to shapes your mood, a lot of lofi and Joji gets played in the house, and it's good, but man, Joji is so so depressing, it hurts my heart sometimes, it needs balance. I'm the same, the words can sink in so deep, and before I know it, I am getting all emotional over a story in a song. Country music can be a killer for that, Midnight in Montgomery got me so bad the first few times I heard it, bloody Tin Man! Damn. I make an effort to find songs that build me up, empower me, I have got into women like K. Flay more recently, people who want to change the world with good music like Grandson (who if you haven't heard of, I would highly recommend, and not just his music, his movement) you'll have to give me some more recommendations, I have the ones you have here lined up in case i get to play DJ at work today ;)
It is amazing how music can carry between people, how we can create these sounds, and they can bring with them so much more, and become embedded in these memories, and this has been the unexpected highlight of taking part in this <3
hahaha yeah, i would like to see anyone try and keep you stood with your back to the wall, that's one thing they forget when the create an outside, the outside is endless, and out here, the fun is endless ;)
I meant to respond sooner.
No, she no longer speaks to me due to me losing my temper and cutting her off a time or two. The last time I cut her off was when I was having major back movements. I spoke with her about it and she got really nasty with something that was really important to me so, not knowing what to do, I cut her off and I've only seen her a couple of times since then. Last time I knew, she's been dating the same person for about 10 years now, which does make me happy for her.