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RE: The Fate of Fempats in China | Foreign Women Plagued with Dating Issues

in #dating6 years ago

This was quite an interesting read; the ‘fempat’ is a concept that is very real, yet seems to be a subject that is too taboo to accurately document in any conventionally published piece of writing. Many of the ideas featured could definitely be discussed more at further length; especially the supposed power of privilege that men are supposed to be denied from ever posessing. It can seem quite strange that anybody would feel so bitter about any man that was indeed otherwise struggling to find love, getting together with a nice lady anywhere in the world. It seems that feminist women wish to prolong his pain and suffering, solely for the crime of not being quite desirable enough in their eyes or failing to give them the attention that they crave with nothing to be expected in return.

One thing that fempats fail to acknowledge is that many guys in China will and have happily dated women from many different races and backgrounds; but when 99.9% of the local female dating pool is Chinese, dating Chinese women becomes something that can be pretty unavoidable. We’re not always losers that can’t laid back home, we’re simply making use of what is available and enjoying our lives. Dating Western women from familiar cultural backgrounds would often be an easier option for us when it comes to long-term serious relationships!

A new and disturbing trend that is emerging; possibly one that few others may have noticed is the arrival of male feminists amongst the newbie laowai population that consider fellow foreign men who date Chinese girls to be complete and utter sleazebags and will actively seek to white knight the local fempat population. While there are undoubtedly some sleazy and unsavourably foreign characters about in China, most of these unfairly slandered men are just normal, nice but shy and average looking guys that have no intention of causing harm to anybody and would like to be left alone to enjoy their life in peace. However, when they tread into certain expat heavy environments, hostility may be encountered; even if only amounts to snarky comments in their presence.