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RE: Dear Steemit Week 2 is ON! 30SBD PRIZE POOL!!! Share Your Advise and Win!

in #dearsteemit7 years ago

Don't take the job.

As hard as things might be financially, don't take the job.

Your child needs you. Despite the fact that even when they're older in life and will understand why you moved away, it will never overcome the feeling of abandonment your child will feel. Understanding the reason doesn't do much to change the emotion they feel in relation to it.

Your baby needs you.

I grew up dirt poor. My husband grew up dirt poor. I know a lot of people that grew up dirt poor. But being poor alone wasn't a cause for unhappiness. Parents not paying attention, being neglectful, or fighting in the home were the causes of unhappiness to us poor kids when we were growing up.

Your child will always think of those milestones you missed. It doesn't matter how well-intentioned your absence was, and it doesn't matter whether or not your child understands the reasons. There will always be holes eating away at your child, whether you see them or not. Unfortunately, children are good at hiding this kind of pain.

I didn't have a father growing up. And as a child, it only kinda sorta bothered me every once and a while. As an adult? There's a gaping black hole where my father should've been, and it hurts. A lot.

If nothing else, try to see if there's any way you can move your child overseas with you. It might be difficult, but it's better than leaving your child behind.

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