Glad you got away from the bad guy. Seems evident you learned not to ever let any person rob you of your namesake. Keep shining and sharing that light it is a real virtue.
Curious to know if you took the time to ponder the similarities between boyfriend one and two and even the relationship you are in now. My shrink from years ago gave me a lesson that opened my mind to making real change in my life by associating the similarities or past relationships and correlating it with my own behavior. It was interesting how the similarities were created by me, as were the outcome. That and the similarities were what attracted me to them in the first place. I had to fix me, in order to change the outcome and appreciate the differences. Sure everyone is different but it's the similarities that keep us repeating our behavior and determine the outcome.
I could predict what girlfriend would do 6 months or a year into the relationship because I had been with 1 through 5 even though each were much different. Make sense? IDK. Anyways, something to think about.
God bless.