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RE: Global Steem Village News #17

in #ecotrain5 years ago

Anyone who is a 'fan' of Marshall Rosenberg is a friend of mine 💚 I read NVC when my now-17-year-old was a babe in arms and it revolutionised my ability to communicate effectively with at least this one human being, stopping the cycle of abuse/trauma in my family heritage for good. 17 years on, I am learning how to extend that ability. Pleased to 'meet' you here, and I will be following and reading... Thank you! Jay 💚

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Wonderful to hear that, Jay. As a solo mom of a 15 year old your comment encourages me no end. 😊

Welcome to post using #ecotrain and/or #nvc anytime... no rules here other than courtesy & originality & loosely writing within our eco-green-environment-ecovillage areas of interest. NVC is a major foundational plank of eco-village. 💚

Thank you for the invitation, @artemislives 😊🙏 Raven asked me yesterday why we are able to communicate with each other without misunderstandings and conflict, saying, "I can only remember 3 times when we got it 'wrong', and even they were helpful because they reminded me of how much I value our ability to communicate effectively."

I must admit that I have never seen anyone use NVC's principles with the ease, grace and elegance that Marshall did. For me, the most resonance was around the essence of his message, which was utterly evolutionary. I vividly remember reading about his experiment of splitting people into 2 groups at workshops and assigning them the same conflict resolution task, but (unbeknown to the participants) with a different 'protagonist'. On every single occasion that he ran this experiment, the group which was told that the 'problem' person was a neighbour approached them with more respect and compassion than did the group which had been instructed that they were dealing with their own child. I can't accurately describe the feelings which arose in me at that moment, but it was a cellular-level 'lightbulb moment', and a key factor in giving me the strength and resolve to parent my child differently than any relationship I had ever encountered. I will forever be grateful to Marshall for that. He was a truly exceptional and remarkable human being. 💚