This is absolutely gorgeous, Clara. Really thorough and very spot on. In reading this I realized that toxic masculinity is very simply pure masculinity with no feminine balance. Masculinity is beautiful, but it has to be balanced. I think one of the reasons so many of us struggled with this question is that we went in thinking matriarchy must be unbalanced feminine, but that's not it at all. I'm unsure what unbalanced feminine would even look like because balance is such an important feminine quality.
I am fascinated by this whole survival mode thing. We have basically been living in fight or flight for thousands of years now. No wonder people are always sick or tired. And oh my goodness the idea that leading is serving is super revolutionary. That alone could change everything. Thanks so much for this beautiful post and also for this really important question. I really think we are uncovering really important, world-changing things here that are truly important to our evolution.