Ecotrain Question of the Week:What is matriarchy? What do you think a matriarchal society would look like?

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What is Matriarchy?


Matriarchy for me, does not mean the opposite of Patriarchy.
However you do need to look, at the other end of Patriarchy though, to get to Matriarchy.
For me Matriarchy is the middle road, it is the meeting point.
Everyone is equal. Everyone has their role to play and it is not based on gender.
Warriors were both male and female. There is no room for dominant behaviour.
It is a way of life that recognizes that we are part of Mother Earth and what we do to the earth we do to ourselves.

Ireland the last Matriarch Society in Europe

Ireland was the last Matriarchy Society in Europe. It is where I grew up and because of that I always felt a huge connection with the earth. If you go to Ireland, you will find that a lot of people when talking about themselves will always let you know, where exactly they come from, this tie with the land is still strong. You will also always hear them talking about the weather, it's a slight obsession we have and o.k it does rain a lot but it goes deeper than that, it is a topic that once again really connects one with their natural environment.

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In Ireland you will see a lot of Statues of Mary around the Country, and yes she is recognized as a symbol of Catholicism. But she does in fact symbolize The Mother. When Christianity arrived in Ireland, a lot of the seasonal holidays that were celebrated , were turned into christian holidays with the hope of converting more people . Although they strove to have Jesus as the main symbol for the church, the people of Ireland would not accept that, they were too attached to the Mother , so it was that Mary was adopted as the true Face of the church and driving around Ireland today you can still see that. But of course she was changed into a virgin and no longer seen as the fertile force.


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When I talk about the Mother, I am referring to the cycles of nature or triple Goddess ,birth, life and death which ties in with rebirth or Maiden, Mother, Crone. In Ireland, Brigid represents Maiden, Mary represents Mother and Sheela na Gig, the Crone. The matriarchy society in Ireland celebrated the life cycle, as it is connects the land and all living things. The Goddess represents the earth and the divine energy that is created within her and within us all.

What do you think a matriarchal society would look like?

In Matriarchy, there is no religion, it is the connection to the earth, to the seasons that is celebrated. . The divine is within us all and not something that is external. Every living being is sacred and respected, gender does not come into it. We are all seen as equal. We are all our own gods and goddesses and what nature provided for us is celebrated. We find ways to celebrate that which sustains us and gives us life and for some they may perceive them as Gods and Goddess's.


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The spiral is seen throughout the world, it is infinite, it embraces awareness and change. It is all around us and seen everywhere in nature. In Ireland the triple spiral represented the Triple Goddess, the life cycle, the every changing, ever present. This is something,that I think is a very important aspect of the Matriarch. It embraces awareness and change, it looks to nature to find balance and to bring balance into the world. Everyone would be in touch with both the masculine and feminine side of themselves. Obviously both of these are different, but those differences would be embraced and celebrated.

As I mentioned earlier, there is no room for dominance in a Matriarchal Society, therefore our view of nature would change. We would be living in a time where we work with the earth, where we respect and honour the earth.

If we look at how the word Matriarch is defined, it states everywhere that it is the female leading and being dominant. But I do not believe that. What we read, what we have been taught, all comes from the time of the patriarch. For me in Ireland, my education was controlled by the church, what was in our libraries was controlled by the church. For many, many years texts where altered or destroyed by the church.I also know that a lot of history or herstory has always been recorded and told mainly by men, not women. That is, in itself hugely out of balance.

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Even after writing all of this it is hard for me to imagine what a Matriarchal society would look like. The Patriarchal society is so engrained in us. I know that Matriarchy screams out femininity for some but for me it means balance. The mother, our mother Earth where naturally all things are in balance.

So in answering this huge question, I look a little to my heritage but most importantly I look to myself, to my understanding. I follow my gut when I read or write, because we hold so much wisdom within ourselves, we really don't need to look to others to show us the way. We need to tap into our power and find a way to unleash it.

I would love to hear your thoughts on this topic. And please do look out for posts from the other passengers on the #ecotrain who will be answering this question as well.

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Hi! That was refreshing. A point of view from where you grew up and the strong bond to the feminine that survived and even thrives in Christianity! Wonderful!

I LOVED your article! I find it difficult to find posts about the critics of patriarchy or posts about the ancient meaning of matriarchy here on steemit, but you explained it so very well. It's about balance, equality, acceptence. Especially exepting nature as it is and not trying to form it into something totally different.
I used to read about the critics patriarchy a lot. Most of my knowledge is by "The Great Cosmic Mother", a book by Monica Sjöo and Barbara Moor. I made a video about it, but it is in German:

These days I follow people like Claudia von Werlhof, she is a great women who gave great interviews on youtube, but she is also picked on because of some of her sayings.

I'm of kind of in a hurry right now, but I will definitely upvote and follow you!

I appreciate women who are looking for connection to the feminine qualities. I also like this article from trucklife-family a lot. It is a part of a bigger picture that we have created with passengers on the eco-train ( a writing group who support each other) We answer a question each week, and this was one of them. Here you can see most of the answers gathered: https://steemit.com/ecotrain/@eco-alex/what-is-matriarchy-what-do-you-think-a-matriarchal-society-would-look-like-ecotrain-question-of-the-week-read-some-amazing

Thank you @clara-andriessen for putting the post here.

thank you so much for your wonderful feedback @antikesdenken, I really appreciate it. Will check out Claudia.

Thank you! Looking forward to read about this.

Welcome. Unfortunately I can only recommend German speaking critics of patriarchy. There is also Kirsten Armbruster, who just started some projects here in Germany. She has a Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/kirsten.armbruster.5

But the critics of patriarchy is an international thing in my view. Kirsten posts about women marches aswell and I really enjoy reading about them. They give me hope :)

Aishlinn, this was phenomenal! I never knew that matriarchal societies do and did exist and the huge history related to that in Ireland. Wow! You opened my eyes and mind to a lot of knowledge and this has been quite empowering in its own way. Also, you gave me lots of points to consider for my own post. But my head is spinning a bit too cos I just read 3 posts on this qotw consecutively and there is an info overload right now :P

Thank you Sharoon, I'm really glad you enjoyed it.I'm looking forward to reading your post. We all have so much to share and learn from one another.

Yes we do. I posted mine about 1.5 hours ago.

AWESOME! Ah, Irish mythology is nearly my favorite, although it has been re writen by christians the females there play powerful roles! Brigit especially is my most favorite. The prominance of Druids and the earth centered spirituality also speaks to the feminine qualities.

I also really enjoy how you bring up the notion that we dont have any clue as to what life would be like without a patriarch! And I am pretty damn glad we are here to begin changing that! I like your ideas on it all for sure, how it would be equal and earth centered. SO MANY YESSSSes.

I also love this topic, and cannot wait to explore it too! Thank you for sharing <3

Thank you @skycae, I met an amazing woman called Maureen Conannon, she wrote a book called the Sacred Whore, you should try and get a copy of it. It is the best book I have read about my Heritage. She writes a lot about the Shelia Na Gig

Goddamn so many books on the sacred feminine I need... there is one by a local author all about sacred periods and stuff too. I cant get enough books!

Yes! I like how you say it is hard to write about because we have never seen it; it’s just the history of pattiarachy that so deeply shapes our perspective. Completely agree then too that we must go to the gut to know the way.

I love that you included spirals in this and your home of Ireland and it’s land based connection. I think it all goes so much hand in hand with the past ways of that land. We used to have land based spiritualities and ways of being before the Catholic Church started to forcefully take over everything.

It’s our job to imagine this new equal society, not the opposite or mirror image of patriarchy. We seek balance 💕 good one! 💙

thank you @mountainjewel, yes it is hard to trust what we have been told or even what is recorded and that leaves just our intuition.

Excellent, @trucklife-family! I see we took a similar approach. Yours is the first I have read. I am curious to see how others will go with it and how many of us will deny casting matriarchy as the opposite of patriarchy. I think that whole idea of dichotomy is super patriarchal to begin with. Anyway! I loved reading about the Irish part. I'm actually not letting myself go there when we go to Europe because I want Ireland to be its own trip. I always love how many cultures reshaped Christianity to fit their original beliefs. The Maya here also changed some things. I found some fascinating research on some of the ancient cultures, but of course even Christianity which is relatively recent, was filled with plenty of femininity until it got erased. Mary Magdalene was likely far more powerful than anyone lets on, and there were other women who wrote about the mystical teachings of Jesus, but those were destroyed. There were also some nuns even in the height of church establishment who were powerful women Mystics. They just kept them hidden away in convents. Anyway, loving this topic!!!!

thank you supermama, I have just read yours and yes we did take a very similar approach. so much herstory lost but some we carry inside of us and that can not be deleted.

Exactly. We really have to go with what our gut tells us is true.

A fascinating, lovely post. I grew up in a kind of matriarchy--my own home in upstate NY. My mother ran the show. She didn't "look to others to show the way". She found it, in herself. We didn't have much contact with the outside, so my mother's strength formed my worldview. My father was mostly absent. It never occurred to me that a man would be in charge. Much like the matriarchy you describe, I always assumed I would be responsible for whatever needed doing. As I grew older, this posture was sometimes interpreted as a radical feminism, but it wasn't. It was simple an assumption of autonomy and equality.
I will look into #ecotrain. As I become familiar with Steemit I'm finding communities with content that matches my interests.

Thank you @agmoore, yes it is about autonomy and equality. Thank you for sharing your story with us. You can find ecotrain on Discord here. https://discord.gg/sxpEPJc.

Since our exchange on this blog, I've been doing a little research on the geological history of NY State. I got distracted by reading about pre-European civilizations and came across a description of the Lenape, which had a matrilineal social organization. See:
Family, Women, and Children and Gender Roles in the Lenape Tribe. While responsibilities were divided between men and women among the Lenape, "women made a large percentage of the decision making.." about "... who was sent into battle and who stayed home, property rights, leadership for the community...". I think the Lenape fit your description of matriarchy, which does not imply dominance, but shared responsibility. Thought you'd find this an interesting bit of trivia.
Back to geology and the Hudson River Valley now :)

Thanks so much for sharing this with me @agmoore, I'm going to go have a read of it now.

great stuff @trucklife-family! SUch a good answer.. In particular the quote of this post for me is

If we look at how the word Matriarch is defined, it states everywhere that it is the female leading and being dominant. But I do not believe that. What we read, what we have been taught, all comes from the time of the patriarch.
i think you are spot on with this comment.. i really like how you have redefined matriarchy right at the start.. Its like an education reading these posts.. Love all that you say!!

Thanks so much @eco-alex, I have really enjoyed these questions and this one is something I feel quite passionate about, I could have written more, but with little ones it's always hard to find the time to write long posts. But oh how much knowledge we have lost!

Hi @trucklife-family,

I just want to say that I came from the largest matriarchy ethnic group in the world 😊

Wow that’s very cool- perhaps you’d want to chime in on our question of the week? What is matriarchy? I’d love to hear your experience/thoughts!

ah great minds think alike x

hey @ayahkasih, would you be up for answering this ecotrain question? I would love to hear your personal experience of living in a matriarchal society. My answer comes from knowledge passed down and from my own beliefs. Thanks so much for dropping by and commenting.

Ehm...but first, please forgive me for my poor English.

Central figure in our 'tribal myth' is Bundo Kanduang (meaning Biological Mother), The Greatest Queen all the time. Our clan (family name) descent from mother to children. Men and women with the same family name consider as close family, so prohibit to marrying each other (this has inspired a lot of fictions).
Women inherit tanah pusaka (clan's property).

My late grandmother from mother and my mother are the only daughter, and I only have brothers. Technically, according to our culture, my family lineage has ended.

I don't have problem with matriarchy. In fact, my grandmother got a medal for her works, so did my mother.

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