Responsible parents, responsible children.

All parents dream of teaching their children to take responsibility for their words and deeds. Many families believe that the solution to the problem is to establish permanent responsibilities for children.

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"Responsibility is a value that is built little by little, and to achieve having children who are responsible adults we must instill such virtue from a very young age."

It is believed that children should take responsibility for taking out the trash can or mowing the lawn, and for girls there is nothing better than washing the dishes and cleaning the rooms. In fact, such duties, being important in the home environment, still can not affect the formation of the child's sense of responsibility.

On the contrary, in some families, the imposition of performing these duties leads to constant fights, which have a negative effect on both children and parents. In the end, the child is likely to obey, and the kitchen to shine clean, but it is not known how it will affect the formation of character.

The truth is simple: you can not impose a sense of responsibility, it must be manifested "from within", according to the value orientation received at home and also outside the family.

Awaking responsibility.

In wanting to cultivate a sense of responsibility in our children, we also want them to be guided by higher values, that is, the love for life, work, the search for happiness.

SourceHowever, most of the time we feel a sense of responsibility, or rather, lack, in more specific cases: when the child has a disaster in the room, the task is done carelessly, the behavior leaves much to be desired .

On the other hand, a child can be educated, maintain order in his room, carry out carefully everything that is entrusted to him and, nevertheless, make decisions for which he will not assume any responsibility.

This is especially true in the case of children who are always "told" to do this and that. They are not given the opportunity to form their own opinion about something, to make a decision, to establish certain fundamentals of behavior.

The internal emotional reaction of the child to learning is everything; It depends on her how much she will fix in her mind what we teach her. Values ​​can not be taught head-on. They learn gradually, while the child imitates adults who deserve their love and respect, and identifies with them.

SourceThen, the problem of the responsibility of children for their behavior poses, in turn, the problem of the value system of parents in the orientation towards early childhood education.

It is necessary to bear in mind the following: is there any specific type of behavior with children that helps to awaken their sense of responsibility? This chapter is dedicated to answering this question from the point of view of psychology.

Purpose of the goal: daily work.
Parents skillfully and consciously awaken a sense of responsibility in children. They give the child that he understands that he has a right to all feelings, but they also show him acceptable ways of expressing these feelings.

Changes in the character of the child that improve the sense of responsibility.

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• The responsibility is developed and strengthened only on the basis of the child's own life experience, becoming an important characteristic of their character. This means that it is necessary to determine the extent of children's sense of responsibility according to their "maturity".
• The sense of responsibility is not innate. It is also impossible to buy it automatically at a certain age. Responsibility for their words and actions is generated, such as, for example, the ability to play the piano, a prolonged practice. And this practice must be daily.
• Raising the sense of responsibility in children is possible from a young age. To do this, you must give the child the right to choose, in cases that are of greater importance to him. There are questions that the child can decide for himself: here he should have the right of choice, but not the option. We make a decision for him, at the same time we help him accept this inevitability.

Conclusion:

"El deber de los padres es enseñar a los niños a asumir gradualmente la responsabilidad, ya que esto se va construyendo poco a poco."

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