I hope that you are using E-prime.
And I wish you let the other person know that it is, that what you are using, and what it is.
Because else it seems like you are telling the other person not to trust his own thoughts, and to believe your thoughts instead, the person might unconsciously control his speech. I don't believe that to be a good thing for there may come a time when a person might need his freedom of speech to stop, what I believe to be, atrocities . But that's my opinion;)

Edited; added some words to clarify, I'm walking on eggshells allready lol