doors and windows

Who has not been in love? Who has not felt that he is flying in the smoothest cloud, that he can do everything but for some reason "the cosmos" (you or your partner) does not want you to stay in that state, just poke the cloud with a needle making you fall in the empty more infinite that you can feel, we pluck or pull our hair such a sansón. In life by things we can control (our thoughts and actions) or what we can not control (the thoughts and actions of others) a relationship can end. But is it really the end? Can we really not continue with our normal life? In our mind, there are unknowns that may not let us sleep. How could my relationship end? It was my fault? Does that other person you're with makes her happier than me? How could I or could I be unfaithful? Why did I do this because I did not do that? At the same time that emerges from our being the urge to do all that is and is not in our hands to recover what we believe is "the meaning of our life", we spent the day thinking and telling the other person "My existence is not worth nothing without you "," I live for and for you "," you are everything to me "," you are the most important thing in my life "," I do not know what I am going to do without you "," If I lacked, it would kill me "," I idolize you, "" I need you. " We lose ourselves humiliating ourselves and destroying ourselves to the bottom.

Well, none of that serves more than to torment us if the other person does not really want to be with us. The phrase when a door is closed has to open a window is not applicable to all cases sometimes when we close a door is because they do not really want us in that house, but what is the first thing we do? Try to enter another house? Do not! The other phrase of a nail pulls another nail does not help us either. It would only make you cling to this new house even more, because you have already lost a crazy one and you will want to lose another one. The truth is not about surrendering or about not caring, it's about understanding that in this world we can not control everything and that humiliating ourselves, getting drunk and smoking as if we had a pair of spare lungs would not make it stop to hurt but then what do we do? Loneliness and time. I do not mean an eternal loneliness, or to isolate ourselves from the world is rather a loneliness in terms of being with a new partner we have to give ourselves some time to assimilate what we did wrong and well, find us new to ourselves and to organize our life in a new house. But our house one where we can close and open our own doors and windows whenever we want.