The Most Important Woman

In a hadith of the Holy Prophet. He said: "The woman is married for four factors, her possessions, the quality of her nasab, her beauty, and the quality of her religion, so choose her strong religion, otherwise your hand will be dusty (you will surely lose).

There are three kinds of women: First, the woman who can serve, gentle, keep the self-respect, muslimah, help her family in life, and not put the burden of life to his family. Second, women who become containers of children. Thirdly, the bad woman who is tested by God to someone and is released from whomever He wishes.

Similarly men in the eyes of women there are three types: First, men who can serve, gentle, maintain self-respect and Muslims. He puts the affairs at the source and brings it to his net. Second, the man who has reason and holds his affairs with him. And thirdly, the perverted men, do not submit to the truth, and disobey those who are guided.

Ali bin Abi Thalib Ra. said, "as well as your wife is a woman who guards his cock and has a strong lust against her husband". Urwah ibn Zubair said, "There is no thing after faith that can elevate the degree of someone who equaled the good wife, whereas no matter after the disgraceful disbelief of a person equals the bad wife of his religion There is a saying that says:

The bad water starts from the bad soil.
While the bad people start from the bad woman.

Source: Imad Al-Hakim, Becoming Wife Full of Charm, (Solo: PT Aqwam Media Profetika, 2007), h. 168.