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To a shock right off the bat. And they need understanding .
Ask questions.
Take your time !!!!!! Be informed

I understand it is easy go along. I get it. Denial is a nice comfortable place. I look at this everyday. I see the sufferings . My heart hurts for them.

But sometimes people just don't want to know and are just being polite - I don't get that :o

It is easier to have others take care of, or control of the problems.
I get it.
I wish I could just lay here and let others control everything. It will never happen.
When you beat someone down so bad they have nothing left. No will, hope ,strength. Its terrible.

I have been saying that the mental side of this is very important. It will be your biggest battles to overcome. It has a Hugh impact on ones recovery.