Is there really such a thing as failure or is it just our perspective?
Fearing failure and ultimately failing... This is one of the scenarios I deal with most often, both with the people I train and when I wear my executive coaching hat and address issues brought up by management.
It's something that we've all probably encountered occasionally. Even though we could benefit from a certain amount of dread of failure, too much of it can immobilise us. That is the fulfilment of the prophecy.
Failure becomes evident as soon as the movement stops. Edison's search for the light bulb is one of my favourite tales here. Together, let's read this legend.
Legend has it that Edison discovered the light bulb on his 1095th try, and on his 1000th failed attempt, his helper Watson became weary and questioned him about it. "Master, how much more failure are you willing to take?
It can be helpful to define failure in order to determine the answer to this. since everyone of us has unique beliefs, worldviews, and standards of comparison. For some people, what is a failure could be seen as an experience. as demonstrated by Edison's case.
Psychology even has a term for fear of failing. The term "atychiphobia" refers to the fear of making mistakes that keeps us from achieving our objectives. This might depend on a variety of factors.
The most evident explanation is having grown up with extremely judgmental and unsupportive parents. A serious situation may occur if you combine this with the child's exposure to a lot of bullying during puberty, a time when their need for acceptance is quite strong.
You may have gone through a painful event in your life. It's possible that you still harbour dread and disappointment from feeling like a failure in front of people who mean a lot to you.
I suppose that feeling like a failure is an inevitable part of life. Even the most cautious people are unable to advance very far. To put it more succinctly, he is not fully embracing life.
The lovely thing about failing is that it gives us a chance to learn more about who we are. Thus, a lot relies on our perspective.
Do we perceive what happened as a win or a loss? Of course, amid the heat of failure, it might not be able to look at the situation from an opportunity-focused perspective.
But as coaching studies have shown, we get over this by engaging in "focusing on the target again with the old morale" exercises.