Today I want to talk about one of the lesser discussed aspects of children being placed away from their family. There are consequences to such actions that are greater than the child's immediate well being. It is being proven more and more through various studies that when a child is taken from their parents, they will have life long problems by way of mental, physical and social development.

The Foundation

A child that comes from a background of affection with supportive adults that are consistent and balanced, grow up to be adults who tend to be well-adjusted and independent, they seek out relationships that are healthy and compliment who they are and where they want to go. They have confidence and are not afraid to take small risks to find what in life it is that makes them happy.

A child that is raised up with no affection, no reassurance and no outward expression of love, will grow up to be insecure, fearful of life and people. They will not be able to have meaningful relationships that empower their well-being. They will have a hard time just trusting another person can love them. They will not know how to love or be loved.

A child that is raised with over-compensating affection, or coddled as they say; to the point that they are treated like a fragile and incapable human short of having someone constantly waiting on their every need, well, they grow up to believe that they are incapable of doing anything by themselves for themselves. They seek out those who will be willing to shower them with the same type of love they were shown as a child. They will feel as though unless their partner coddles them the same as they were shown while growing up, it must not be real love. They will fear taking risks of any sort and they will feel insecure.

Love Languages

As children, we learn our "Love Languages" from our home and upbringing. The way in which we express and feel the expression of love is directly linked to what we as children had been demonstrated love to be.

This is why it is so very important for children to witness the love of parents for each other. A father that treats his wife with the utmost respect and kindness, will foster in his daughters to seek out the same in a husband. Daughters will seek out partners that express the same familiarity of affection that they witnessed their father have for mother. His sons will reflect what they had learned from their father and likewise treat their wives with respect and kindness.

A mother that treats her husband with the utmost respect, being his best friend, his partner in crime, his cheerleader, his biggest support, will foster sons that will seek the same in a wife and will not settle for less. Daughters will treat their husbands as they had seen their mother treat their father.

This is why the most important job you have in raising your children is to love your spouse.

When Parents Are Absent

Children who are taken from their families, have much more to contend with. They are shown that they cannot trust anyone. They are tragically distorted by way of what love as a language is. They have difficulties in forming bonds or relationships. They are insecure and fearful. They do not recognize the value of being able to trust or to take risks. If they do take risks it is generally in a far more destructive manner. They struggle with self-worth and with connectedness. They have depression and often this is a life long endeavor. They suffer PTSD and physical brain injury from the trauma of being taken and isolated from any familiar loved ones. They have life long physical ailments.

Studies

Here is an article excerpt by PubMed Titled; "Positive Parenting Matters in the Face of Early Adversity."

CONCLUSIONS:
"The number of adverse childhood experiences was associated with both social-emotional deficits and developmental delay risks in early childhood; however, positive parenting practices demonstrated robust protective effects independent of the number of adverse childhood experiences. This evidence further supports promotion of positive parenting practices at home, especially for children exposed to high levels of adversity."

And yet another study in PubMed Titled: "Does continuous trusted adult support in childhood impart life-course resilience against adverse childhood experiences - a retrospective study on adult health-harming behaviors and mental well-being." concludes that:

CONCLUSIONS:
"Adverse childhood experiences negatively impact mental and physical health across the life-course. Such impacts may be substantively mitigated by always having support from an adult you trust in childhood. Developing resilience in children as well as reducing childhood adversity are critical if low mental well-being, health-harming behaviors and their combined contribution to non-communicable disease are to be reduced"

These children who have undoubtedly been misplaced and further desensitized to the need for strong family roles in their lives, carry with them into their adult life a myriad of complications. They are socially developmentally delayed if not permanently. They are set up for a lifetime of pain and suffering. Their outlook on life is dreary and they will need a lifetime of care to help them cope.

What can we do?

We can start by being a voice for the little ones. We can choose to stand up for the destruction of families that is being perpetrated today as a first response and answer to minor difficulties. We can raise awareness of the atrocity that is a life sentence for children and their families.

We can support our friends with families and especially single parents. Parenting is one of the most rewarding yet difficult jobs you will have. With so many broken or single parent homes now than ever before, it is even harder. They used to say it takes a village. If we all become that village than it will make for a more well balanced and healthy future for our proceeding generations.

Be the village. Write to our politicians. We can protest against the legal human trafficking that is imposed on so many innocent lives. Expose the darkness of their deception and bring our inherent and unalienable rights back. Read my article; "Whose your Daddy?" and subscribe to my website at https://stolenchild.clubOur right to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness was and is the true law. Help to restore our freedoms to life. We can be the man in the middle that waves the flag and says NO! NO MORE!

Warmest regards to all you who are suffering this nightmare. I cry with you. Don't let them win anymore by keeping silent.

Thank you to all who have taken the time to read and open your heart and mind to this issue. It is only by enormous awareness that things will ever change. Thank you for sharing this message and the issues at hand. We need every voice to speak.