Wow, thank you so much for this beautifully written post! What you say there “disagreements are fine, attacks are not” is SO true. I think that’s the root of most of it, people don’t know how to disagree without attacking. We’re so afraid of what it means when people hold different truths inside (and of course, sometimes those truths are indeed quite harmful and need to change). Still, we can’t change anything unless we can talk about it!