Hi darlings! Today I want to share some thoughts on being a mom, and also show you the birthday cake I made for my son who turned 2 this week.

My Berry Cheesecake recipe can be found here!

I am full of gratitude towards being a mom. My love for my child is reaching new levels each day I watch him grow. He turned 2 years this week. 2 years on this earth, 2 years or love, growing and development. But it all started about 10 months before he was born. I believe that each child chooses his or her parents. We choose the parents that will give us the start we need in our lives on this earth. No matter what we experience, this is what we need in order to develop as soals. We incarnate in a human form to be able to experience feelings, separation, pain, and suffering. We are here to realize who we are.

In other words, the universe wants to we aware of itself.

I am actually very happy that I became a mom at a young age. I was 25 when I got pregnant, and somehow that burden of being a woman who needs to fulfill her life purpose (yes that is the common society expectation), was lifted from my shoulders. I have done this now, so I can move on. This is how I felt, and when I see many women my age without kids, I see them struggling with this expectation a lot. They want to be free and live their own life and succeed in whatever they do. But at the same time, they have a longing to be a mother and taking care of their own child. Or sometimes they feel sorry for their parents who are without grandchildren.

My message to all of you who struggle with this question, if you do it for someone else, your partner, your parents, you will disappoint yourself so so much. I am sorry to say this, but our parents have no right to expect any grandchildren from us. And please dont l bring a child into this world to make your partner happy, you are the one living your life, and only if you truly want this, you will enjoy being a mother.

If your childhood was a happy one, you can absolutely choose to listen to your parents for advice on how to be there for your children. But if your childhood was filled with pain, please dont repeat what your parents did to you, even if they had the best intentions.
My parents had many good thoughts on how they should support me and my siblings when we were young. They thought it was very important to be outside a lot and going for long walks in the forest. They thought there are many things that children need, and they wanted to give that.
What we were DOING was a lot more important than how we FELT. (But isn't life about joy?)

I have realized,that if I am not happy with my own life, I cant make my kid happy. If I would live through my child, I will be a burden to him one day. So I choose to put a lot of attention on my own goals and dont focus all my attention on my child. Because if I only care for him, who is caring for me?

I can see that I am a very happy parent and a good mom to my kid, as long as I feel fulfilled in my doing and being. I feel happy and full of life when I am able to spend some hours on being creative, develop my knowledge in food photography, create recipes and writing blog posts. That is what I really love doing, and if I am able to do this, I am a happy mom for my child the rest of the time. I am not looking for happiness through my kid, he is not here to make me happy.
I love being with him more than anything, and I am such a proud mom. But I am more than this. I have potential to grow. I know I can be whatever I choose to be, and right now I want to explore all the possibilities of my life. For so long time I was stuck in my limitation of expectations, that I felt was not able to do anything, but my child has shown me, that I can do whatever I want and wish for.

I am sure I am doing things in another was then my parents did, I have learned from my childhood a lot, and hopefully, I can offer my child other values, that I was missing back then. I put a lot of value on letting my child be who he wants to be, let him understand that he is loved, not for what he does, but for just being him.

What I want to say with this, is that be who you are, and cross the borders. You are here for some years, and even if new life find its way through you, you are here to discover who you are beyond your body and rolls. Be love, find your way to express love towards yourself and your children. We are here to grow and to be aware of our true nature.

Many of us sacrifice our dreams for other people. But in the end, we lose ourselves. We get bitter and unhappy. And the ones we love will keep a distance to us.

Care for your own happiness if you want your beloved ones to be happy. Take care of your own yard before you access your neighbor's yard.

You are not responsible for someone else's emotions and feelings. You can offer your support and love, but you dont need to solve their struggles.

Be the energy you want to attract.

Be LOVE. Be you. You are. Awareness.

Let me know what you think about this topic or just which picture you like the most! ;)

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Love, Niina

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While you are still here, take your time to check out my other recipes and recent posts:

• Epic Burger Made of wholefoods only

• Rhubarb Lettice Cheesecake recipe

• White Chocolate & Nutella Mousse Cupcakes

• Cookie Dough White Chocolate Caramel & Chocolate

• Ice Cream & Cookie Double Ice Cream Cookie

• Nicecream: 1 ingredient ice cream

• Dream cake: Vanilla & Chocolate Cream Cake & Berry Cheesecake

• Strawberry Bounty Bars Recipe with only 4 basic ingredients

• Granola in 10 minutes! Recipe & Apple Pie Granola + Bars

• PEANUT BUTTER-CHOCOLATE CUPS with roasted hazelnuts Recipe & Chocolate Bliss Balls

• Coconut Ice cream Cake: Coconut Ice-Cream Bundt Cake with hot Jam and Chocolate!

• Nutella only 4 basic ingredients!

• Pizza with a crispy oat-crust & buckwheat - chickpea veggie pizza
• Cinnamon Pancakes

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Thank you all! ❤
I want to inspire you to live your dreams, eat delicious, wholesome, nourishing, healthy food, and keep a creative mind. We all can do that, now!❤

Health starts inside our mind.

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