You make a compelling point, @phil-glaz, and show us an alternative view to the popular "overthrow the tyrant" view. On the other hand...the history of women being oppressed, held back, not allowed to vote in the U.S. until one hundred years ago (and great effort made by women who were imprisoned for peacably holding signs petitioning for suffrage) - I coud go on - but in real life, I know too many women who are bound by guilt, manipulation, and indoctrination to honor marriage vows when the husband is a dishonor to men everywhere and a vermin to his wife. First-hand, face to face, I have seen it, and only a few of these women broke free. I've read book after book and there is so little we can do to persuade these captive women to get out. It's a complex topic. Maddening. Frustrating.
Thank you for reminding us that there's another side - though I believe it's seldom the case that the woman herself "provoked him to such behavior" -