The Dreaded Gossip

It's a giant dilemma, isn't it? If one should expose someone of their vile habits to unsuspecting potential victims and prevent history from possibly repeating itself or to keep mum and have the new guy experience it all themselves because speaking up equates to gossiping sealing our fate to transforming into actual living and breathing antagonists.

If we do not keep our cool and engage in the sword fight, we will be labeled bullies, judgmental and pessimists. 

If we expose them, talk about them: what they've done, the damage they've caused in the past, we really cannot escape the reality of becoming them.

So do we talk amongst ourselves (the dreaded gossip) to provide awareness especially for the unaware while inescapably dooming and destroying someones reputation? (Not an act someone with good intents would like to be caught doing). Or do we just humanely watch and wait? Enabling the vile to do their damage once more?

We talk of course. At least WE TRY to confront the vile to avoid gossiping by quite simply going directly to the source.

We ask them, we talk to them. Except when you do confront them, time will pass like lightning and you only have given them a stage to further their cause. Hopefully you've kept your composure because in my honest opinion? It's not worth losing it. Especially not for them.

Because when someone is as deceitful, manipulative and hurtful as a vile person usually is? THEY WILL DO THE JOB OF EXPOSING THEMSELVES quite well without anyone's help. There's really no need to do much but speak our truths and see how it all plays out. 

There will be inconsistencies in their stories. But also a pattern will appear and it will be as bright as day. You will soon realize they are but half-truths and will do a seamless job of causing confusion, like driving in the thickest fog at night, than giving any hope of clarity. Anyone who reads it, if attentive enough, will see it. The ones who don't? Well, my heart goes out to you.

See the vile know the ropes, they hide and dodge because they know there is no better place to mask one's ugly than under the guise of the pure, of goodness and trustworthiness. They don't face their ugly because they're afraid. It's really all about fear. 

So they tell stories of achievements they've attained, businesses they've founded and maintained, stories of immeasurable efforts they've exerted, sacrifices they have endured, dreams they claim to have envisioned, all these will reflect the tip of the iceberg that are yours or that of the ones you admire and know are authentic. But theirs are merely just stories, a plan yet to be put in motion. They are masters of disguise. The unsuspecting will not know what hit them.

And THIS I understand is what is most painful to witness: When we know something to be untrue and someone else utterly unaware might purchase it for their consumption, and we just watch and do nothing.

I understand the need to call someone out on their BS because I have had to deal with a few of the vile in my very recent past, I genuinely do not think that's anyones job to shame them because they can use that against you as proof of their pain caused by you. 

This is their craft: turning tables around. Do not fall into their trap. 

But if we do our job right, not get sidetracked (engaging in anger and hostility, cursing, stooping down to the level we know where they thrive in) and forge on asking them with our validated truths, they will quite certainly expose themselves on their own and when they do? We'll need to take a shower to rid ourselves of the stench.

Winsse