OK so here it what I heard. There were people who tried to hurt your wife just because she was your wife. You felt guilty, and angry and wanted to fix it for her, because that what a husband does for his wife. right? You decided to own your feelings and experience them. You took personal responsibility for yourself and chose not to be a victim. You surrendered and decided to have faith and everything worked out( Just the way it always does). The next step would be forgiveness, understanding and compassion. We know that Hurt people, hurt people and its never personal. It has nothing to do with you. So here is my question. What if intent is neither positve or negative? What if intent is simply intent? When we act with integrerty, and do the right thing for the right reasons the outcome would be the same no matter what we thought about the intent. Those feeling that " negative intent" evoke are just as valid as the feeling that " positive intent" evokes. We are not defined by what we think, We are defined by the actions we take..