Emotionally intelligent people don't say these four things
In this life, people learn to speak for three years, and learn to shut up all their lives. Keeping one's mouth and speaking carefully and not saying these four kinds of words is a manifestation of self-discipline and high emotional intelligence.
01 Don't talk big
There is a kind of person in life who likes to rhetoric on any occasion, wishing there was nothing in the world that he couldn't do.
Like to talk big, reflecting the weak side of a person's heart.
Because, the more inferior a person is, the more he brags about something, just like the full rice always bows its head, only the empty rice can raise its head to the sky.
Lack of strength and arrogance, although he earned a temporary face, but ruined a lifetime of integrity. People with high emotional intelligence understand better: instead of boasting, it is better to be down-to-earth and settle yourself for the future. The mouth is the door of misfortune and good fortune, and water can carry a boat and capsize it. People with high emotional intelligence know better: make promises, work in a low-key manner, keep promises, and be humble. People who don’t talk big, don’t make excuses, don’t talk about empty things, and don’t talk about exaggerated truths, can gain trust and easily achieve success.
02 Don't gossip
Gossip - in a small way, it is a few gossip after a meal; in a big way, it is a low-quality performance of wanton speculation and arrogant evaluation of others.
Those who gossip behind their backs spy on privacy, imaginatively, add fuel to the flames, and fan the flames, lest the world will not be chaotic. However, there are no impervious walls in the world. When the gossip is exposed, that is, when you get into trouble, you don't even know the offending person. Over time, the image of such people in the eyes of others will be greatly reduced, and fewer people are willing to talk to them, and fewer people are willing to listen to them. No matter what a person is right or wrong, not revealing the strengths and weaknesses of others is a basic cultivation of a person. Because, you never know what other people have experienced, and you are not qualified to judge behind your back. Learn to be an emotionally intelligent person who doesn't listen to rhetoric and doesn't say anything about others.
Only with prudence in words and deeds, with good intentions and a magnanimous mind, can we act for a long time.
03 Don't say angry words
We often see:
Some friends broke up because of a bad word when they were angry; some couples parted ways because of an angry word when they were impulsive. When people are angry, they are often dominated by their emotions, and their words are like sharp knives, and their destructive power is destructive. It is too late to regret until after the small thing has turned into a big one, only to find out that there can be a better solution at that time. It is better to think twice and restrain your emotions instead of being quick. This is the performance of high emotional intelligence. Use the ability to withdraw your temper to defeat the instinct to lose your temper, and you will have fewer regrets in your life.
04 Don't complain
Complaining is the phenomenon of obtaining temporary psychological comfort by venting dissatisfaction with things.
People are all yearning for the sun, and it is okay to complain occasionally, but long-term complaints are like a walking negative energy diffuser, which makes people afraid to avoid it.
There was such a story:
An old chef took in two apprentices. In addition to teaching cooking skills, they also arranged for them to clean up the kitchen.
The second apprentice was full of complaints and hastily, while the eldest apprentice humbly asked for advice while cleaning.
Half a year later, the eldest apprentice was hired by a big restaurant in the city to be the chef, while the second apprentice only worked in the tavern. The reason is that the eldest apprentice spent all his time cleaning the kitchen improving himself, while the second apprentice spent all his time complaining.
Going forward in the dark night, some people see the wind and rain, and some people see the sky full of stars.
In the face of unsatisfactory life, people with high emotional intelligence will not let themselves be in the abyss of emotions, unable to extricate themselves, but self-reflection, and turn resentment into kind communication, positive suggestions, and positive actions. Then you will discover the more brilliant light in your life.