KEEPING FORWARD AFTER A PAINFUL RELATIONSHIP.

in HeartChurch4 years ago (edited)

I think it is one of the most difficult issues to address especially in the Christian world, where most religious people think that we follow Christ, we are perfect, we do not make mistakes or we have difficult times.


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When we are in the stage of meeting someone or the moment of courtship, of marriage we must evaluate, in the most objective way possible, about their character, attributes, morals and way of acting of the person that we are going to choose as a partner during the entire life.

I want to share a bit of my thoughts on the eve of celebrating International Women's Day, I do not believe in feminism, I believe that women were created to be an ideal help for men, and for them to treat them like a glass fragile, with delicacy and love, it is very hard and sad when we are mistreated for no reason, when we give so much and receive little or nothing.

I do not write for other people's stories but based on my own story, a marriage that ended after ten years, and a very hard time of pain. Even to end something that hurts, you need courage, because most of the time we want to continue suffering in silence and so the days and years go by and we only have frustration.

There is the other side of the story, those women who know that we have a purpose in life, that many people depend on us and yet we are going around in the same circle for so many years, a breakup hurts, it hurts too much and it is something so deep that only God can help us to repair, it is like they put you through the fire and put you in a furnace and it burns you, it burns you even so there is hope.

Through this process we can learn the valuable lessons that this experience can leave us and even more, walk towards learning what it really means to love and be loved.We were not born for lack of love, on the contrary God created us to love each other.

"Walk towards learning what it really means to love and be loved. We can say that a true recovery and internalization of new ways of relating healthily, begins with the conscious decision to overcome the crisis, strengthen existing friendships, promote new friendship relationships, assume a new attitude based on a healthy self-image and, finally , to love and to let oneself be loved under a correct conception of what love truly is."

And another thing that I learned from this bitter experience are the stages of grief, you have to live it, it is inevitable, we cannot want to cover a wound with false sutures that sooner or later will leave us worse, at that moment when our heart and soul hit rock bottom. We must let our healer set us free, meet him and his love will clean each wound through forgiveness, and once our heart is healthy, we will have the ability to love again.

Now, at this point you will ask: So, what is the true face of love? How to love and be loved correctly?

Corinthians 13.47, TLA):

He who loves is patient in everything, and is always kind.

He who loves is not envious, nor does he believe himself more than anyone else.

He is not proud.

It is not rude or selfish.

Do not be angry about anything.

You don't spend your life remembering how bad others have done you.

He does not applaud the wicked, but those who speak the truth.

Love is not blind, love thinks and is capable of projecting itself in time.

"For a world where we are socially equal, humanly different and totally free"
(Rosa Luxemburg)

All human beings have the freedom to choose, to love, to receive respect, to fly, God called us to peace and everything that is different from what the creator established based on love simply does not make us happy, today on the day of I want to dedicate this message to all the valuable women who give everything for their own and leave the world in a better place, virtuous and admirable women, let the pain go away from you, get up and shine.

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Love truly is a choice, we should not move with hate because of what people had done to us. Neither should we restrain opening up our hearts to love again when we meey the right people.
Truly love is a myth and it would only take God to love.