If you want to cultivate a good child, the mother first needs to ask whether she is competent. If you can’t do it well, what right do you have to accuse your child of doing it wrong.

When you should be cruel, be cruel

Pregnant in October, and once giving birth, mothers are born with a strong love for their children. It is understandable that many mothers are reluctant to let their children cry and their children hurt.

But as the child grows up, the mother needs to learn to accept the unhappiness that the child may encounter.

When a child encounters a setback, don't stretch out your hand in a hurry, learn to let him face it by himself, even if he cried bitterly at the time. For the rest of her life, her mother cannot stay with her child forever.

If a child cries when he falls, and someone will help him when he cries, how can he face the pain alone when he grows up?

When a child does something wrong, don't just be tolerant, learn to express your attitude reasonably, and help the child to correct it at the same time.

In the family, parents can tolerate children's small mistakes, but in the real world, no one has reason to tolerate them. The indulgence of the present is the poison of the future.

Warm your heart when you should

A mother is a gentle haven for children, there is no need to be serious or strong blindly, just give the child warmth, he will have enough sense of security.

When a child withdraws from a challenge, such as not daring to speak on stage, or not daring to try swimming, his mother needs to encourage him and tell him to try, the process is more important than the result.

In the preparation process, his mother needs to provide timely help to let him know that his parents support him, no matter what the result is, his parents love him.

When the child accidentally did something wrong and apologized, the mother can accept his apology, and at the same time express her views on the matter calmly and calmly. Don't blindly accuse or even abuse, this will only cast a shadow on the child's mind, and even lead to rebellious emotions.

Play when it's time to play

Children are born to love to play, and their main task at this stage of life is to play. In order to maintain their image, some mothers just sit far away and watch their children play. Some mothers do not even have time to play with their children because of their busy work.

If you do not actively participate when your child is playing, it will bring a sense of loss to the child, which is not conducive to the cultivation of parent-child relationship, and it will also give the child a feeling that the mother does not care about him or does not understand him.

Therefore, mothers should learn to let go of their figure and play with their children completely. Perhaps in the process, you will find the bright spots in your child, such as being caring or creative, refreshing your understanding of your child, and at the same time deeply experiencing the connection between them.

Sometimes, children prefer exciting games, such as walking a single-plank bridge and playing on a trampoline.

Mothers should not curb their behavior because they are too worried or unable to understand. Children's curiosity and desire to explore are very precious things. You just need to provide companionship and protection when they are playing, and give your children room to play.

The mother is the child's first role model, and every word and deed may affect the child's future development. Therefore, mothers must learn to nurture themselves first and then nurture children.