Honesty in everything, and why you don't need to lie at least to yourself
The most important relationship in the life of every person is the relationship with oneself. If you don't respect yourself, consider yourself a failure, or someone incapable of changing your life, the same will be true of those around you. The same goes for lying. People who deceive themselves cannot be honest with others. I will share with you why it is so important to be honest in your relationship with yourself.
A hackneyed old phrase, which is difficult to find more precisely. No matter how you try to persuade yourself that you are good and comfortable, no matter how hard you try to make sure that you are doing everything right, if this is not true, such efforts will be in vain.
For example, you have a job. Not that she is a beloved, but you can endure: every day to persuade yourself that it is necessary, to cherish the hope that the future will be better. Winter will begin, it will become easier, the old accountant will be fired, and we will live, raise the salary, go on vacation ... And while you convince yourself of this to everyone, hundreds of new opportunities fly by, which you simply do not notice, as you are busy with complacency and suggestion.
Why not try to honestly look in the mirror and admit that every day you do what you have long ceased to love? As soon as you analyze the situation with a cool head and, without pretense and embellishment, figure out what prevents you from living comfortably, the decision how to change everything will come by itself.
Oh, if only you could live multiple lives! Here you are a careerist whose goal is to conquer the whole world, here you are a diligent family man, there you are a careless traveler, and so on. The only pity is that reality dictates completely different rules to us. Because of this, we oppress our inner desires for the sake of public opinion, upbringing, the framework of decency, the list is endless. And if, God forbid, you live the way you want, it means that you are an unrestrained egoist who loves only yourself.
Of course, ideally you should try to find a middle ground. Therefore, it is very important to listen to yourself.
Day in and day out, working in an environment you don't like, doing tasks you don't like, interacting with colleagues you don't understand, you shatter your hopes and dreams. You drown out your self. And in the end it results in burnout , terrible fatigue, stress, scandals in the family and a complete lack of understanding on the part of loved ones.
This is why it is important to seek and find balance in career, family and hobbies. This is why we talk about our dream job so often . This is the kind of work you should be doing. The one without which life does not seem complete, which helps you grow and develop. Unpopular, unpopular, unclaimed, so be it! But it won't always be that way. When you are sick of what you are doing, sooner or later your work will bear fruit.
Tech empires and corporations started out as dreams too. In medicine, it was the eccentrics who made revolutionary breakthroughs. Because, in spite of everything, they followed their vocation, did not build illusions, but systematically and confidently walked along the chosen path.
Be honest with yourself, believe in yourself the way you believe in you , and remember that you can do anything! Maybe even more.
@orion7 you have actually taken me to my memory lane. I can vividly recall back in 2012 I was in a relationship very honest hoping my partner would appreciate she gave me the shock of my life. She told me she was coming over I was glad at the moment when came after about 2 hours she Vincent please I can't marry you I asked her why she said because you don't lie, you don't brag you're too simple. But for me as a person I can't deceive myself I say things the very way I feel. I maintain decency . Thanks again for this encouragement
This is very powrrful write up. Same thing i have been telling those around me but not in the exact words though. You can only win when you are honest to you and that will reflect in your dealings with others with others. Thank you for sharing
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