Have you ever had this experience: a friend asks you for help, and you didn’t want to help, but because of face, you were embarrassed to refuse, so half-push and half-develop things. When things are done, you’re too tired to get things done, and you provoke yourself All in a show.

Therefore, to be a person, you must learn to refuse, don't be a bad person, don't agree to some things, don't agree to some things, don't help, some promises, don't make promises, you must be careful.

You have to know that if you don't know how to reject others, then you will be wronged yourself, if you always be a bad person, then you will live more tired.

In fact, when you learn to reject others and stop being a bad person, you will find that you will live easier and more comfortable.

Learn to refuse, what embarrassing you, the sooner you refuse, the better

Don't embarrass others, but don't let others embarrass you. Therefore, the sooner you refuse to embarrass you, the better, don't be embarrassed.

You have to understand that if others are embarrassed to trouble you, you have to be embarrassed to refuse others. After all, helping others is a sentiment, and not helping is a duty. You can choose to refuse.

Moreover, I think that choosing to refuse is not ruthless, but just following your own heart and starting from the heart. This is responsible for yourself and others.

For things like borrowing money, generally don’t borrow, because it’s easy to borrow money, but difficult to get it back. Moreover, you may lose some good friends.

Once, a friend asked me to borrow money. I didn't want to borrow it, but because of the affection, I borrowed it. Later, there was no later. When I think about it now, I can only blame myself for what it deserves.

Therefore, no matter who asks me for help now, as long as it embarrass me, I will find excuses to refuse, because I don't want to embarrass myself in order to improve others.

Thing beyond your ability, refuse decisively, don't be a bad person

Be a good person, but don't be a bad person, otherwise, you will not only get in a lot of trouble, but also suffer a big loss.

Therefore, when someone asks you for help, don't just accept it, you have to measure your abilities first. If you are within the scope of your ability, you can consider helping, but if it is beyond your ability, you must decisively refuse.

You must understand that if you are busy beyond your abilities, once you help, it will often be a waste of help. When that happens, others will not only not thank you, but will even blame you, blame you, and even push all the responsibility on you. How do you feel when the time comes?

Therefore, when you are a human being, you must not be a bad and good person, some help, even if you can help, don't talk too much or too dead. It will be better if you leave some room for yourself.

As for what you can't help, you must resolutely refuse, don't hesitate, don't agree, don't do bad things with good intentions, because you have wronged yourself and let others down.

Remember, you must be cautious about helping. If you should refuse, you must refuse, because there are some things that it is better to refuse than to help.

Written at the end:

Learn to refuse and don't be a bad person, so that you can live a relaxed, comfortable, free and easy life without entanglement.

However, if you have not dared to refuse, or if you are embarrassed to refuse, and maintain the image of a bad and good person, then you will continue to embarrass yourself and you are destined to not live out yourself.

In fact, whether it is love, work, or life, we must learn to refuse, but we must pay attention to the way of refusal. When we should be direct, we should be direct, when we should be decisive, and when we should be euphemistic...

Perhaps, if you choose to refuse, you may hurt some people, but if you don’t refuse and choose to be a bad person, you are embarrassed by yourself, and you may even delay others.

May you be positive and optimistic and have a good day every day!