RE: Das Buch, das noch geschrieben werden muß - geht weiter! / The book that still has to be written - continues!
Reading this made me feel...
I'm short of words really.
What if the electric appliances didn't just leave a flame, bluish or yellow. What if something happened...
Would the parents feel responsible?
Of would they chalk it up-to some disturbed child. Who was just cursed. Who was destined for this mishap...
You made me re-think my role as a parent. How suitable or equipped I am. What if I had to deal with something like this. Would I be able to understand, still love unconditionally?
After all it's the parents' duty to love their kids, no matter what!
I don't know, I'm short of words...
I have seen children testing their parents to their limits. (I'm not talking about you here). The parents are also human beings at the end of the day. I have seen a demise in my close family. Apparently the kid got into habit of substance use. His mother, well, she did everything she coluld. She loved her... But in the end she lost it. She maybe lost the strength to deal with the chaos that child would bring everyday. It was beyond her capacity....
She visits his grave almost everyday. She is not the same person anymore. She is broken, she is ill, she is only alive, she is just no more....
I don't know if you have to love someone no matter what. Parents are responsible for their children up to a certain point, but as soon as they are able to make their own decisions, this responsibility shifts to a kind of legal construct.
What my parents would have felt if I had been successful, I can only guess. My father's assessment of them would have been that I was simply a weak person. My mum would probably have said: finally it's all come to an end... You know, she was over 40 when I was born. Back then, it was considered absolutely late childbearing and highly risky. A woman would never have done that to herself voluntarily...
You only really love yourself unconditionally, if at all...