The Green Spotlight #30; Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married

Greetings and welcome to my blog. This is the 30th edition of The Green Spotlight. The green spotlight is a weekly blog where I review interesting books with the aim of wetting our reading appetite to peruse the pages of these great books and draw out so much for ourselves.

Reading is one of the greatest virtues we can cultivate. Not just any kind of reading but books that are inspirational in nature and would motivate us to become the best of who we are.

If you missed our last edition on “Anger Management”, you can find it here, Edition 29.

This week we are going to look into a very important book that deals with a very sensitive part of our lives and the subject of marriage. The tittle of the book for review is “Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married”.

Unto the review of the week

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Author: Gary Chapman
Number of chapter: 8
Number of pages: 160
Year of publication: 2010
Published by : Northfield Publishing

My opinion about the book “Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married”

Introduction/Theme

Marriage is a beautiful institution and we all look forward to getting married some day while some of us are already married. This book resonates with mostly the singles as we wouldn’t be in a state of regret like the author was on writing this book.

I believe if we take our time to go through this all time wisdom penned down in a book that we would glean some wisdom that would be applicable and appreciated by us if we should embrace the institute of marriage.

Let’s look at some interesting tips to take away from the pages of this great book.

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Key points from the chapters

• A lot of single people spend time preparing for their wedding instead of preparing for marriage. The time of courtship should be a time to discuss some key issues that may pose as a difference between the two parties in marriage.

The euphoria of falling in love always gives way two years into the marriage and the couples are faced with this harsh reality and most of them do not know how to navigate their way through this time of marriage which would end up in divorce.

• Since the emotional part of love may seem to vanish after some years, it’s required for the couples to know how to express love for one another even when they don’t feel like it. Love is not a feeling but a commitment.

Each partner have the way they feel loved and it’s better for the other party to express love to the partner using their love language which are categorized into five and are known as the five love languages.

• The five love languages are quality time, acts of service, words of affirmation, giving gifts and physical touch. Expressing love to someone not using their love language may defeat the purpose. Knowing your spouses love language and speaking it goes along way to maintain the love in a marriage.

• This may not sound romantic but couples who are engaged should discuss practical issues like who would do what in marriage like washing the dishes, cleaning and all. They should take responsibilities for certain tasks in the home and openly communicate about their finances.

Finances is one of the major issues in marriages and it should be duely talked about. Open minded communication without arguing is key. Couple should know one another practically beyond emotions.

• Did you know that marriage does not change people’s personalities unless there’s a decision on the part of the other party to really change? Did you know that spouses may generally take after their parents at the long run?

There’s a lot to learn from the pages of this great book and it comes highly recommended from me to you if you are single and wants to mingle in the marriage institution. Even married people can learn something to enrich their marital union. It’s not too late to get it right.

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My rating of the book

I was hit by some hard realities as I read through this book and I must say am wiser and hope to get it better. I give this book a rating of 9/10. It was a great book on things we should know before marriage.

Conclusion

I’ve seen a lot of engaged people running around preparing for their wedding and I wonder if they really know what they are going into. This book is here to help you as to that regard. A word is enough for the wise they say.

Thank you for being a part of this week’s edition of The Green Spotlight. Your thoughts are welcomed on the comment section and hope to see you again on our subsequent editions.

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