My personal perspective about courtship

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What is your understanding about the word courtship?

No matter how convincing you are about who to marry, you must prove all things and hold fast which is good in the relationship and proving a relationship takes time that's when courtship comes to play which is necessary part of every successful marriage.

In courtship with my wife, we both agreed to walk together (Amos 3:3), getting to know ourselves well and we learn each other in the direction of marriage.

How can people in courtship maintain a good relationship that can lead to marriage?

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One need wisdom to discern the kind of man or woman he or she want to live the rest of he's or her life with. In my case me and my lovely wife we did the following:

1.We prayed together: As believers in Christ that we are, we both take time out to pray together and share God's word together and it helps us to ascertain ourselves spiritual depth and real love for God.

2.We plan: Actions without planning is the cause of every failure. We both decide in advance what should be done, why it should be done, where it should be done, when it should be done, base on the marriage process and number of children we will have, where we will live that will be comfortable for us and them after our marriage.

3.Good Character: We learn our characters because a good character is the essential elements that will quality our marriage to hold. A good character that manifest in courtship will come to play in marriage because character is the real you and it will fixes ones dignity and that is where you see if he or she is transparent, honest and truthful is in a good character.

4.Good Habits: It's easier to prevent bad habits than to break them. Habits are not formed over night but rather they are behavior that grow accustomed to over time.

5.We Visit friends together and play games: In this process, we both get to know our real friends, what they are, those that want to support us and the ones with bad interest.

6.We both visited our family members: We did not rush into this step, until we both were convince base on our strength and we were sure of ourselves and our integrity was not only to God but also to our families.

7.Creativity: This where you understand if he or she is creative or a waster because imagination rules the world and the desire for greatness must be burning within at all time.

Are there things to be hidden during courtship? If yes what are they. If No back your answers with your reasons?

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No because, in courtship one need to be transparent, honest, truthful and faithful. My father always say " Do not start what you can not finish". If one start hiding during courtship that's means he or she is fake and fake people can't last long in marriage.

Do you think there's time frame in courtship? Explain?

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There is no time frame for courtship because the longer the better for you to have time to know each other well so that there will be no mistakes at last. To me, courtship should no be less then 6 months, and more then 2 years. Except where there is financial challenge or parental objection.

Is courtship a guarantee for successful marriage?

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If there is an area one need to be extremely careful in choice, it should be in the area of marriage because marriage is a life long commitment not a temporary friendship. And the only door out of marriage is death by God's covenant standards.

No, there is nothing that will guarantee a successful marriage but dating someone for a few years before courtship might give you a better insight into the person you are considering marrying.

Conclusion: Before the Ring, you have to prepare well all round because, courtship is not for boy and girl but for a man and woman to be.

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