(Contest:) Does money makes a happy couples?

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.IS MONEY CENTRAL TO FAMILY HAPPINESS? IF YOU THINK IT IS, PLEASE EXPLAIN HOW, BUT IF YOU THINK IT'S NOT, PLEASE TELL US WHAT COULD BE?

The fact is that we all have a responsibility to provide for the well-being of our family- We see to it that our family has access to adequate food, shelter and pay for healthcare. Meeting these needs are essential, and its requires money to meet these basic needs and if we don't have money to do so, the well-being of our family suffers greatly. So it is safe to say that money gives protection.

Family who tends to develop an unbalanced view of money might suffer stress, conflict, and emotional damage. Some families often sacrifices their time and effort, in search of money, sure money can bring a certain degree of stability to one's life but that doesn't prove the fact that it is the cause of one's happiness.

In the constant hustle to earn more, some families have end up leading a miserable life. The more wealth they possess, the more their wants and needs increases, complex lifestyle bring the constant unease. Unfortunately, Money has damaged the value of real relationships, it has deteriorate the bonds between family, in the run for money; The time that should be spend among family has reduced - instead experiences and having more time to do things with love ones that drives happiness. The deepest pleasures are derived from interpersonal love, warm relationships.

Contentment promote family happiness. When the family are contented with what they have, who they are, and where they are. It is respecting the reality of present.
Families who are contented accept others as they are, they are not limited to their own well-being, they established a good relationship with each family members, including their flaws, and being content with the present fuel feelings of happiness in the family, making them stronger.

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WHAT ARE SOME COMMON MONEY RELATED ISSUES AMONG COUPLES IN YOUR AREA? DOES THIS HAVE ANY CULTURAL UNDERTONE?

Money is one of the most common and contentious issues in marriage.

  • Differences in spending habits or priorities; One spouse may have the habit of spending instead of saving, and one may chose to save and invest and this is a financial red flag and should be address by both couples.

-Financial infidelity; Some partners can be secretive or dishonest when it comes to finances, when one partner hide or lie about their financial activities from the other. It can be disastrous to marriage,for example -

*Hiding debt

*Spending money without telling the other partner.

*Keeping a secret account.

-Separate Finances; Keeping a separate account only, without setting aside or contribute to a joint account or joint financial needs and goals can also be an issue.

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-HOW WILL YOU DEAL WITH A SITUATION WHERE A SPOUSE FEELS THAT YOUR MONEY IS OUR MONEY, BUT MY MONEY IS MY MONEY.

Well cultural and religious orientation may also plays a significant role on this, where women are obligated to serve their husbands and not to contribute or support when it comes to any financial matters such that financial responsibilities are considered only for men.

When couples focus on such expectations they can often loss their own sense of directions and responsibilities. As a couple, I will consider a real discussion with my spouse For example, describe to her how I feel or how we may be affected by her idea? Also, try to understand what may have influenced her attitude. Then we can lay down certain values regarding finances and establish good ideas that can help to serve and support one another.
Because marriage provides an opportunity to serve and share with each other and that can only be build on love and trust.

The greatest impact sharing can bring into marriage is love, sharing with your spouse is a way of caring about his/her financial and emotional needs and setting aside your own needs to accommodate theirs also.

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IN YOUR OPINION, IS A WIFE OBLIGATED TO SUMMIT HER SALARY TO HER HUSBAND AT THE END OF EACH MONTH? OR SHOULD IT BE THE OTHER WAY ROUND.

-The wife is not obligated to summit her salary to the husband nor the husband is obligated to do same to the wife. Both the wife and the husband are entitled to their own personal salary alone, But if there should be a need to do so, this can only be done on mutual agreement and understanding between the wife and the husband alone.

WHY IS MONEY SUCH A BIG ISSUE IN MARRIAGE LATELY? WHAT MEASURES DO YOU [OR WILL YOU] TAKE TO MITIGATE THIS PROBLEM.

Recently, there has been lots of anxieties as a result of economic downturn in the country, and this has affected so many marriages for example some has lost their job, deduction of income and wages, and high cost of living or businesses which has also create greater uncertainty about how they can continue. So all these has caused lots of issues to the families, especially for the newly married couples. Some are struggling to meet some basic needs such as food security, healthcare and shelter so all these challenges are also contributed to increase rates of family conflict and breakdown.

-Measures to mitigate the problem;

*As a family, the can sit down together for discussions and have a good plan for their financial activities.

*They can make some financial adjustment and also set up a good budget and work on such.

CONCLUSIONS

A family who have an unbalanced view of money might suffer stress, conflict, and emotional damage.

Money only gives protection, but contentment only promote family happiness. When the family are contented with what they have, who they are, and where they are, they are bound to be happy.

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Hello @fonnydanny, thanks for publishing your post in this community..permit me to also say you're welcome on board because you're newbie from observation.

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Welcome once again.