My Personal Perspective About Courtship
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I hope you're all doing great this amazing morning. And you're preparing to have a beautiful day. I'm here for this nice contest brought by @okere-blessing about My Personal Perspective About Courtship.
What is your understanding about the word courtship?
Courtship is when you hope to marry, then you decide to go into a romantic relationship with the person you consider for a certain period of time to get to know the person properly. Courtship has one intention, which is marriage. It's a period for proper dating before engagement and marriage but people now engage before they start courtship.
During courtship, a man and a woman gets to understand and know each other to check if they are compatible and decide if there'll be a marriage afterwords. Activities during courtship can range from having a meal together, seeing a movie together, going on occasions, practically learning to allow someone else in your space, detect things to you, displease yourself sometimes to please your partner.
How can people in courtship maintain a good relationship that can lead to marriage?
There are certain things one must do to maintain healthy courtship, it varies with persons, here are a few courtship practices;
Focus on who you're courting and not others.
Have activities you do together to create a bond.
Admire and develop love for your partner before thinking of intimacy.
Always try to show up on time for your partner except there's an emergency.
Do not sing how phenomenal you are.
Don't act like you're not interested.
Learn to ask questions about your partner but watch your boundary and express your intentions.
It's okay to have some personal space.
Let your past be and remain in your past.
Try to financially support each other.
Are there things to be hidden during courtship? If yes, what are they. If no, back your answers with your reasons.
There are certain things to keep away from your partner during courtship because you don't want to hurt your partner and you won't know their reaction.
Things like money issues, infidelity (no partner wants to have the thought of being cheated on by his/her partner), sometimes job problems is better kept away from your partner. Also, bad habits will always do harm to your partner.
There are times you want to protect your partner, you get to hide the bills you pay because it might make your partner furious.
Do you think there's time frame in courtship?
Courtship takes sometimes, it can be some weeks, some months or some people take some years to court to properly get to know who they want as a partner for life. But I think there's not enough time to get to know a person completely. Because time and season changes a person.
I don't think there's an actual time frame for people to court.
Is courtship a guarantee for successful marriage?
Courtship is not a guarantee for successful marriage. Things might come up and you realise you didn't study the person about it while you were courting.
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Dear friend,your perspective to courtship is interesting,especially where you said "there is no enough time to get to know a person completely.Because time and season changes a person" that's lovely extract. thumbs up!
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Awesome entry, courtship is a very important thing that should be taught even in school, seeing a lot of divorce in our society today some of the problem are signs that are neglected during courtship.
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I think courtship is very much important, but nowadays people skip many steps in relationships, and many are not thinking about marriage, I hope to be wrong, but is mostly what I see around here.
Absolutely agree with the good practices you mention, but regarding what no to share with your partner for me there must be transparency, nobody wants to get surprised with bad issues and they will come up to the surface cause are not easy to hide and can be problematic (bad habits, bad character, money or family issues).
Blessings. Best of luck with your great post. Thank you for inviting me.
I love the way you outline the ways you can maintain a good relationship in courtships. It is good this things are worked out by both parties because it will determine if the courtship will lead to the desire goal or note.