SEC16W3: Raising boys and girls

Boys and girls are born from the love of their parents and their birth should be celebrated and become the most important gift in a family's life, even though nowadays sometimes births are not based on their wishes, but are they guilty and don't treat them according to their nature!

This phenomenon is an important lesson for parents to uphold the rights of children and the obligations of parents to educate, raise and care for them so that they grow well, receive health protection, and have equal access regardless of gender.

Each country has different patterns in raising male and female children. I see cultural factors, religious beliefs and even the environment as having a strategic role in this topic.

Living in a country that upholds social values, culture and strong beliefs in religious teachings will encourage differences in raising them. These differences are not oriented towards differences in providing attention and affection but are only oriented towards several areas such as social restrictions, procedures. dress and other activities according to gender.

I am a product of being raised by my parents with these differences, for example as a man I was given greater freedom in socializing, and in contrast to my sister as a woman, my sister was also given freedom in socializing but under supervision. The values applied in family life aim to limit women from associating freely with boys, especially in obtaining additional education at night.

I was accustomed to living independently, taught to be sensitive and adaptive to the environment (under supervision), while my younger brother was not given the freedom to go home at night without protection from me as his older brother. This was done because we grew up and were raised in an environment of prolonged armed conflict until the end of 2005.

Another difference that I am currently implementing is that I have applied to my two children. Those who are currently 6.5 years old (girls) and 5 years old (boys) receive the same treatment, receive health insurance, ensure their living needs are well maintained and they receive fair facilities.

My daughter gets facilities according to her gender, for example choosing types of toys for girls such as bicycles that are characteristic of girls, her fashion needs are also characteristic of girls and various other facilities are also in accordance with her gender. This is to shape her character who was born as a woman. In several cases, it was found that imposing parents' wishes and following their children's wishes would actually create new problems in the future.

A child who is born female will have the opposite character when he grows up, the child will have a character that is identical to Lekaki's in all aspects of his life. Likewise with my son, I also chose each of his needs according to his gender, even though he wanted cooking equipment at the age of his growth and development, I decided to limit it by giving the view that his wishes did not suit him so he was more suited to choosing other types of toys such as cars.

Every attitude taken by parents will affect the child's future growth and development, and I ensure what is best for them.