Self Confidence

The Reality of Self Confidence

Everybody wants to have self-confidence, but do they really know what self-confidence is about?

True self-confidence has to transcend what we do.

Think about it.

Have you ever accomplished something that took a lot of efforts and made you feel proud, but you still felt less than confident about yourself in general?

Maybe you got that college degree, or bought the house of your dream, or you're making plenty of money...and there's a feeling of disappointment because it doesn't make you as happy or self-confident as you thought it would?

In psychology, this feeling that we don't really deserve what we've earned is described as the 'Imposter Phenomenon.'

No matter how much you accomplish or acquire, it won't satisfy you unless you have self-confidence on the inside.

So, what's missing?

True self-confidence has nothing to do with what you've accomplished but everything to do with your belief that you can do anything you want to do.

It comes from the inside.

It comes from trusting yourself and committing to yourself that you will do whatever is necessary and most desirable in your life.

Whatever you are faced with in life, you will face and deal with it.

You will take action.

You know that because you have made a commitment to yourself.

Self-confidence doesn't depend on the outcome of those actions, but on your rock-solid faith in yourself to take the actions.

Basing your self-confidence on positive results is setting yourself up to fail.

The universe - all the people whose good responses you are depending on - can't be depended on to give you the results you want at all times.

The irony is that the only one you can depend on to give you the results you want is YOU.

You can count on yourself and your commitment to YOU.

You will take action, and you will adjust that action as needed.

That is the source of real self-confidence.

Of course, every outcome won't be what you'd like.

That's life, and that's all right.

Your confidence is based on who you are, not what you did.

No one or no adverse outcome can take that away from you.

Remember that you are the source of your own self-confidence so, believe in yourself and stride confidently forward.

Have a fantastic day