Lies We Tell Ourselves: Our Worlds Don't HAVE to be Perfect!

A common topic in the world of psychology is the issue of people "getting in their own way."

It's something we likely have all done, at one time or another. A challenge or opportunity manifests on our path, and we manufacture a "story" for why we can't face it in the moment, or seize an opportunity that may never come our way again.

Such "cover stories" can get quite elaborate, and for those who are not paying close attention, they sound completely reasonable and rational.

But usually, they are a cover.

So what is going here?

Virtually all of us carry some kinds of burdens through our lives, in the forms of beliefs we've formed about situations and outcomes that have become so ingrained in our beings that they have come to feel like absolute truth, rather than what they really are: Excuses.

We often use excuses to mask our fears. And we use them in so many different ways. Often, we use them to mask our insecurities and fragile self-esteem.

Consider the young woman who is quite happy to date all sorts of men, but she always is "busy" when the boy she really has a crush on asks her out on a date. It doesn't make sense, to the observer... but she's so terrified that he might not like her after that first date — even though he's been trying to get close to her for years — that she avoids exposing herself to that possibility, instead dating guys who are not all that important to her.

Consider the hardworking man who's excelling at a dead-end job he really dislikes and who is a great candidate for a career change that would make him really happy. But instead of accepting any of the multiple offers for dream jobs, he instead keeps accepting "lateral promotions" within an industry he doesn't even like, always coming up with "perfectly reasonable" reasons why he "can't change right now."

One of the interesting things about the human psyche is that we are often most hesitant to reach for the things we want the most.

And so, we get in our own way. Often, we are fearful that we are not "perfect enough" for the things we truly wish for, but — paradoxically — we know we are perfectly capable of being more than perfect in situations we don't actually have much emotional investment in.

Which leaves us either consigned to a world of "medium happiness," or we can unpack the roots of why it actually is that we don't deserve to have what we truly want.

In the context of therapy, that unpacking can be quite the challenge, as people tend to put up so many barriers that getting at the truth is almost impossible!

As with many situations we face in life, simple awareness of the issue can be a huge first step on the path to changing our approach.

In many cases, we discover that we are merely "replaying" a life strategy from our childhood or youth that is no longer valid, now that we are fully grown adults without parents on hand to "tell us off."

All you have to do next is take the first small step!

Thanks for coming to visit my blog, and Bright Blessings to all!

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