ReaderSubmission: What I have learned

• It is not enough to love a person. You must also consider whether or not you are being treated with respect and compassion. We have to create terms and conditions for how we allow people to behave if they want to keep their spot in our lives.

• Set standards to filter out the shitty people. Be the best and most authentic version of who you are.

• Don't settle for an unhealthy relationship. Don't settle for mediocrity. Don't waste time trying to change someone. Just because you're capable of dealing with negativity, it doesn't mean you should have to. It is not your responsibility to "fix" people. Instead, find somebody you like exactly as they are (flaws and annoying habits included).

• Inevitably, you will make mistakes. But what you do about them is what defines you.

• Who you involve yourself with romantically will influence you heavily. Choose wisely with the intention of learning and having one hell of a great time.

• Only invest in an honest kind of love that promotes personal growth and is filled with passion. Your energy is too precious to be spent on individuals who do not value your worth.

• Laugh. Sometimes life is silly. Carry on.

Painting by David Pettibone