Introducing myself - my BDSM checklist [NSFW]

in #introduceyourself7 years ago

Not having a clue as to this #introduceyourself posting stuff, figured I would go ahead and post my BDSM sub worksheet for those into that sort of thing. At least until I come up with a better #introduceyourself post.

So, while full of vodka and without further ado:

SUB BDSM CHECKLIST

The checklist below is a way for your scene partner to get to know you better. Not all items below are necessarily things that your scene partner gets into, or would be a requirement on your part.

For each item, you need to provide two answers:

  1. 1.For experience, write YES or NO next to each item to indicate if you have ever DONE that activity.

  2. 2.For willingness, indicate for each item how you feel about DOING that activity by rating it on a scale of NO or 0 to 5.

  • •"?" means you don't understand what the item is attempting to describe.

  • •NO means you will NOT do that item under any circumstances (a hard limit).

  • •0 (zero) indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don't like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and would ordinarily object to doing it, but you would permit your scene partner to do it if it He really wanted it (sometimes called a "soft limit").

  • •1 means you don't want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn't object if it was asked of you.

  • •2 means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.

  • •3 means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/ occasional basis.

  • •4 means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis.

  • •5 means the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you would like it as often as possible.

Note any additional information or nuances which might be important for your scene partner to know in the margin to the right. For example, under "uniforms" you might have a different fetish for military versus police.

Activity

Experience
(yes/no)

Willingness
(NO or 0-5)

Notes

Abrasion

?

Anal sex (see "fucking butt")

yes

4

Versatile so long as taking Cialis. Bareback preferred.

Animal roles (puppy, pony, etc.)

yes

4

I'm a leather dog type of puppy.

Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders)

yes

3

Auctioned for charity

no

4

Ball stretchers /ball stretching

yes

3

Best if "edged" and kept hard during the experience.

Ball torture

yes

4

Best if "edged" and kept hard during the experience.

Bathroom use control

yes

1

Beating (soft)

yes

4

Beating (hard)

yes

4

Best if "edged" and kept hard during the experience.

Being bitten

yes

3

Best if "edged" and kept hard during the experience.

Bestiality

yes

4

Medium/large canines. No other critters. I don't top dogs. I'm a dog's bitch. I'm not a fistee so fist sized and larger knots scare me. Horses are an interest, but not as a bitch. I lost my anal virginity to a dog so they have a special place for me.

Blindfolds

yes

4

Blowjobs (see "Sucking dick")

yes

3

Body worship

no

1

Bondage (light)

yes

4

Bondage (heavy)

yes

3

Bondage (while sleeping)

yes

3

Bondage (multi-day)

yes

1

Bondage (public, under clothing)

no

1

Boot worship

no

1

Branding

no

no

Breath control

yes

3

Buttplugs (small)

yes

3

Buttplugs (large)

yes

3

Buttplug (public, clothed)

yes

1

Cages (locked inside of)

yes

3

Caning

yes

2

Castration fantasy

no

no

Catheterization

no

1

Cattle prod

no

2

Cells (locked inside of)

yes

3

Chains

yes

3

Chastity

yes

0

Chastity belts

no

0

Chauffeuring

?

Choking

yes

3

Chores (domestic service)

yes

2

Clothespins

yes

3

Clothing restrictions (having clothes chosen for you)

yes

1

Cock rings/straps

yes

3

Cock torture

yes

3

Cock worship

no

1

Collars (worn in private)

yes

3

Collars (worn in public)

yes

4

Cowboys

no

3

Cuttings

no

1

Dildos

yes

3

Domestic service

yes

2

Electricity (TENS-based)

yes

3

Electricity (violet wand)

yes

3

Enemas (for cleansing)

yes

3

Enemas (retention/punishment)

no

no

Examinations (physical)

no

2

Exercise (forced/required)

yes

2

Exhibitionism (friends)

yes

3

Exhibitionism (strangers)

yes

3

Eye contact restrictions

yes

3

Fire play

no

2

Fisting

yes

3

Novice FF top. Never been FF bottom.

Flat-top or other haircuts (specify)

yes

1

Master used to do mohawks, etc.

Flogging

yes

3

Following orders

yes

3

Food (having it chosen for you)

yes

1

Have dietary restrictions.

Foot worship

no

1

Forced masturbation

yes

3

Forced nudity (private)

yes

4

Forced nudity (around others)

yes

4

Forced servitude

yes

3

Fucking butt (fucking)

yes

3

Bareback preferred. Like to breed.

Fucking butt (getting fucked)

yes

3

Bareback preferred. Have issues with condoms (hurt) and certain lubes (burning). Like to be bred.

Gags (cloth)

yes

3

Gags (horse-style mouth bit)

yes

3

Gags (inflatable)

no

2

Gags (phallic)

yes

3

Gags (rubber)

yes

3

Gags (tape)

yes

3

Gas masks

yes

3

Gates of Hell

?

Given away to another Top (temporarily)

yes

3

Given away to another Top (permanently)

no

1

Glove play (crotch)

yes

3

Glove play (mouth)

yes

3

Golden showers (see water sports)

yes

3

Group scenes (play parties)

yes

4

Hand jobs (giving)

yes

3

Hand jobs (receiving)

yes

3

Depends on style of giver.

Handcuffs (leather)

yes

3

Handcuffs (metal)

yes

2

Harnesses (leather)

yes

3

Harnesses (rope)

yes

3

Hoods

yes

4

I'm a leather dog who prefers playing in pup hood.

Housework (doing)

yes

2

Humiliation (private)

yes

1

Humiliation (public)

yes

1

Ice cubes

yes

3

Immobilization

yes

3

Initiation rites

no

3

Interrogations

yes

3

Kidnapping

no

3

Kneeling

yes

2

Not as young as I used to be

Knife play

no

1

Latex clothing

no

2

Leather clothing

yes

3

Leather restraints

yes

3

Manacles & irons

yes

3

Marks / bruises (temporary / just for a few hours)

yes

2

Marks / bruises (that might last more than a few hours)

yes

1

Massage (giving)

yes

2

Massage (receiving)

yes

2

Medical scenes

no

2

Military scenes (Army, Air Force, Navy, Marines) (specify)

no

2

Modeling for erotic photos

yes

3

Motorcycles

yes

3

Mummification

no

2

Nipple clamps

yes

3

Nipple rings (piercings)

yes

no

Have two. No additonal ones allowed

Nipple play/"torture"

yes

3

Best if "edged" and kept hard during the experience.

Nipple weights

no

2

Best if "edged" and kept hard during the experience.

Outdoor scenes

yes

3

Outdoor sex

yes

3

Pain (mild)

yes

3

Best if "edged" and kept hard during the experience.

Pain (severe)

yes

3

If built up to it gradually. Best if "edged" and kept hard during the experience.

Phone sex

no

no

Piercing (temporary)

no

no

Piercing (permanent)

no

no

Both nipples are pierced.

Prison scenes

no

2

Punishment scene

no

2

Rape fantasy

no

3

Rape (gang-style) fantasy

no

3

Religious scenes

no

1

Restrictive rules on behavior

yes

2

Riding crops

yes

3

Rimming (oral/anal contact)

yes

1

Rituals

?

Rubber (neoprene) clothing -- see also latex

no

2

Saline injections in balls

no

1

Scarification

no

no

Scat (brown showers)

no

no

Scent worship (man musk & man smell in armpits for example)

yes

1

Scratching - getting

no

2

Sensory deprivation

yes

2

Service / serving

yes

2

Serving as art

no

0

Serving as a housekeeper

yes

2

Serving as a waiter

yes

2

Serving other Tops (supervised)

yes

3

Serving other Tops (unsupervised)

yes

3

Sex

yes

4

Sexual deprivation / chastity (short term)

yes

0

Sexual deprivation / chastity (long term)

yes

no

Shaving (body hair)

yes

2

Shaving (head hair)

yes

1

Skinny-dipping

yes

3

Sleep deprivation

yes

0

Sleepsacks

yes

1

Sounds (metal urethral rods)

no

1

Spandex clothing

no

1

Spanking

yes

3

Best if "edged" and kept hard during the experience.

Spanking (over-the-knee)

yes

3

Best if "edged" and kept hard during the experience.

Speech restrictions (when, what)

yes

2

Speculums (anal)

no

1

Spitting

yes

0

Spreader bars

yes

2

Standing in corner

yes

1

Stocks

yes

1

Straight jackets

no

1

Strapping (full body beating)

no

2

Best if "edged" and kept hard during the experience.

Sucking dick (blowing)

yes

3

I occasionally have issues with fullfilling this role. (Childhood experiences).

Sucking dick (getting blown)

yes

2

Any sensation of teeth causes a lot of discomfort.

Suspension (upright)

no

2

Suspension (horizontal)

no

2

Suspension (inverted)

no

2

Swallowing cum
If yes, describe circumstance, frequency, and current preference.

yes

3

As a result of blowjobs or off of immediately after a jack off. Never done spunk from a bowl, etc.

Swallowing urine (see "water sports")

yes

2

Much prefer it on me, especially a hot stream hitting the head of my cock

Tattooing

yes

no

No additional tats allowed

Teasing

no

1

Thumbcuffs (metal)

yes

1

meh...

Tickling

no

2

Tit clamps (see nipples)

yes

2

clothespins are ok, some clamps, depends on how tight, my tits don't connect with my cock. Best if "edged" and kept hard during the experience.

Tongue bath / tongue worship

no

0

Trucks / sleeper cabs

no

2

Uniforms (specify)

yes

2

scene leather, motorcycle leather

Verbal humiliation

yes

0

Violet wand (electrical device)

yes

2

Voyeurism (watching others)

yes

2

I want to get involved after watching a short bit

Video (watching others)

yes

2

Video (recordings of you)

yes

3

When in "pup space", love getting filmed. When in "slave space", don't care about getting filmed.

Water sports (external)

yes

3

Love getting it onto the head of the cock while jacking

Water sports (internal / swallowing piss)

yes

2

Wax (hot, dripping)

yes

2

Wearing symbolic jewelry

no

1

Whipping

yes

3

Wooden paddles

yes

3

Wrestling

no

3

I'm a terrible wrestler and would end up being the bitch every time. Which I would enjoy greatly after losing while trying not to lose.

Other: Pain and sex combination training has not been done in a very long time, my threshold has dropped, and I no longer get an erection from certain pain play as a result. I am interested in being "edged" and kept hard during the various experiences involving gradual build up of pain levels for retraining.

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Wow quite the extensive checklist. Welcome to SteemIt!

wow, this is the most comprehensive categorization of human sexuality and fantasy I have read. great work putting it together.

It is actually a shortened list. Try Googling for "BDSM checklist". There are some rather detailed ones out there. Overly detailed and exhaustive.

I am just impressed someone went through the time to write these things down.
some of them, I was not even aware were a thing.
fascinating!

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