interesting take on self love. I agree with your analysis that several steps are being skipped on the way to achieving true love

Modernity wants to get the final result but it is skipping stages. Only living in a high state of awareness can put you on a search of finding the real inner love. And that search is paved with selfishness.

i have always wondered is it necessary to love your self. there are two approaches; one is to love others before you love yourself. The other is to love yourself before others. As we can see, it is not possible to do both at the same time. again i dont mean literal love, but the deeper love that is required for us to open our eyes to the possibilities beyond self.

maybe the modern way of thinking is "I feel, therefore i am". while the reality probably could be "i am, therefore i feel".

To love or not to love isn't the question. many modern gurus make it a point to teach about love because it is an emotion that all of us understand. People find it addictive to be taught that love is meaningful when applied to the self.

my question would be: suppose we gave up the self, would love really matter?