Hi, I'm poly (amorous (my name is Amber lol)). I really enjoyed reading your post and some of the points you raised.

For me being poly is all about being able to walk down that path and see what happens without feeling guilty, I'm all about spontaneity. I think that's similar to what you say about not sticking a dart in it either way.

Funnily enough, one of the things I struggle with being poly is all the goddamn planning! In fact, I often have one partner and I don't pursue anything further because if I have multiple partners and so does my partner, then everything needs to be planned and booked in- creating the very certainty I struggle with in monogamy ! Oh the irony!

I'm happy only having one partner but knowing that should I want to get to know someone else, I'm not limited- That's polyamory for me. Knowing that it's my choice, regardless of whether or not I actively have multiple partners at the time.

I read an article once where the author said "at the end of the day, relationships are complicated whatever you choose-and this way I get to kiss pretty girls". I think of that whenever I get those questions like "isn't it really complicated?", "don't you get jealous?" etc.